Скачать или смотреть KIDS only REBEL when we give them something to rebel against

Kids only rebel when we give them something to rebel against.


What do I mean by this?


What I DON’T mean is that we just lay down like doormats


& let kids run the household & run all over us


Even if our needs aren’t being met or whatever they’re choosing


Isn't working for us or isn't safe, moral or ethical.


I don’t mean we just give kids carte blanche & they now run the place


& we’re just there to do their bidding, follow their orders, & chauffeur them around.


That’s NOT what I’m saying.


What I AM saying is when we’re constantly putting our needs, preferences, & feelings above our kids’ so


It’s not that they have no voice, it’s just that we’re still going to make the final decision


Like “Thank you for sharing how you feel. I’m still deciding for you.”


We might listen, like hear what they’re saying, but we’re not actually


Applying it or including them in the final decision


Or including their feelings, needs, or preferences in the final decision we make


Because we’ve designated ourself as “I’m the parent. I’m the adult.”


Listen, I did this! So I understand. I’m not judging. I’m just trying to help you see…


Here’s what causes the rebellion.


If we’re causing it, however unintentionally, with the best of intentions,


& all the love in our hearts, because we’re just doing what we know, right?


If we’re causing it, that puts us in the power seat because now we can shift what


We’re doing & invite our kids into a completely different experience with us.


So if we’re deciding “I’m the parent. I’m the adult. It’s my job to make all the decisions…”


Ok yeah, you’re probably going to be the one making the final decision, however


If when you make that decision, you really make your kids’ needs, feelings, & preferences


Just as important as yours, make them hold as much weight,


& you make a genuine effort to work with your kid, to actually collaborate with them


To find a solution that works for everyone, not just them, & not just you, but genuinely everyone,


You’ll be blown away at how fast things change, at how much less resistant the kids are.


Now you might see a little more at first because they’re going to test to see…


“OMG is this for real? Are we really being taken into consideration? We’re not used to this.


What if we do this? What happens?” They may push a little & that's ok. Roll with it!


Really show them you are willing to figure out something that works for them & for you


& you’ll be amazed at how much they are then willing to work with you instead of needing to rebel against you.


They rebel because it’s the only way they can get your attention & be seen & heard.


Show them that they don’t need to do that to get your attention.


That their needs, feelings, & preferences matter just as much as yours.


Nobody wants to live their life according to someone else’s preferences & comfort level


& theirs seems like it doesn’t even matter.


If you have questions, drop them in the comments. I would love to hear!


I’ve done this with my own kids, I’ve guided my clients to do this with their kids.


I KNOW how much this works & it…changes…everything!


Want to see what this looks like for your family?


Hit me up for a free consultation and I’ll show you what’s possible!


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