Скачать или смотреть When our kids melt down, why do we?

Why do we lose our calm when our kids lose theirs?

Speaker: Dr. Becky Kennedy ‪@goodinside‬
Interviewer: Chelsea Clinton
Recorded: 92nd Street Y, New York ‪@92NY‬

It’s not because we’re bad parents.

It’s because our bodies learned a pattern: when emotions rise, so does reactivity.

Most of us grew up with adults who weren’t calm when we were upset - and our nervous systems absorbed that model.

So when our kids spiral, our bodies feel like it’s an emergency. We just want them to stop so we can feel okay.

But that doesn’t teach anyone how to manage hard feelings.

Dr. Becky reminds us: a child’s storm doesn’t have to become our storm.

Her mantra:
✨ “I’m safe. This is not an emergency. I can cope with this.”

That simple reminder helps your body settle - whether you’re with your child, your partner, or even your boss.

It makes us wonder:
What if parenting calm isn’t about control, but about remembering we’re safe?