Скачать или смотреть 11 Signs Your Relationship Is Not Viable

1. Your partner is ambivalent & totally unreachable

We all have our issues and challenges, but it’s not helpful if the door is closed & it is not possible to work on your relationship with your partner.

2. The relationship is stuck

So much of relationships is about planning a future and having common goals. It’s important to consider what kind of life we are able to create with this person.

3. You are scared to be honest & walk on eggshells a lot of the time

If this is the natural state of your relationship, this shows that there’s a lack of safety and respect.

4. They actively push you away, possibly to ‘make you’ break up with them so they don’t have to

If someone is provoking you in unpleasant ways, it’s possible they are trying to make things so bad that you will be forced to break up with them.

5. Sex doesn’t feel secure or relaxed

If every sexual experience feels quite empty, and you don’t feel especially relaxed or secure during it, this highlights a lack of connection.

6. They lack any insight into their unhelpful behaviour
7. They are active addicts or have mental health issues for which they resist treatment
8. They have no desire to work on their stuff or grow

We can have all the issues in the world, but if we’re working on ourselves and trying, then anything is possible. Someone who cannot take responsibility for their own stuff is unlikely to be able to take responsibility in the relationship. This is not what a partnership is about.

9. They are dismissive and rude about people who do want to work on themselves

Not cool.

10. The relationship is dramatic & high conflict and you’re addicted to it

Being addicted to the highs and lows is not a healthy foundation for a long-term relationship.

11. You cannot be yourself with the other person or you don’t like who you are when with the other person

These are all indicators about whether or not we are able to be who we want to be in the relationship.

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We all have our issues and challenges, but it’s not helpful if the door is closed & it is not possible to work on your relationship with your partner.

2. The relationship is stuck

So much of relationships is about planning a future and having common goals. It’s important to consider what kind of life we are able to create with this person.

3. You are scared to be honest & walk on eggshells a lot of the time

If this is the natural state of your relationship, this shows that there’s a lack of safety and respect.

4. They actively push you away, possibly to ‘make you’ break up with them so they don’t have to

If someone is provoking you in unpleasant ways, it’s possible they are trying to make things so bad that you will be forced to break up with them.

5. Sex doesn’t feel secure or relaxed

If every sexual experience feels quite empty, and you don’t feel especially relaxed or secure during it, this highlights a lack of connection.

6. They lack any insight into their unhelpful behaviour
7. They are active addicts or have mental health issues for which they resist treatment
8. They have no desire to work on their stuff or grow

We can have all the issues in the world, but if we’re working on ourselves and trying, then anything is possible. Someone who cannot take responsibility for their own stuff is unlikely to be able to take responsibility in the relationship. This is not what a partnership is about.

9. They are dismissive and rude about people who do want to work on themselves

Not cool.

10. The relationship is dramatic & high conflict and you’re addicted to it

Being addicted to the highs and lows is not a healthy foundation for a long-term relationship.

11. You cannot be yourself with the other person or you don’t like who you are when with the other person

These are all indicators about whether or not we are able to be who we want to be in the relationship.

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