Скачать или смотреть Episode 32 | You’re Not Missing Them. You’re Missing Yourself.

There’s a real split I see with so many women post affair.

You miss him, and you hate that you miss him.

You know he cannot give you the life you ultimately want. You’re trying to repair your primary relationship, trying to be responsible, trying to move forward. And yet, there is still a pull - sometimes overwhelmingly - toward the person who made you feel something you hadn’t felt in a very long time.

In this episode, I offer a different perspective.

What if you are not grieving him at all? What if what you are actually missing is the version of yourself you accessed in that space?

That woman felt seen. Wanted. Desired. She felt less responsible, less like she was holding everything together for everyone else. She felt sensual, playful, alive in her own skin rather than just going through the motions.

Affairs don’t create a new woman. They reveal the one who has been buried underneath the capable, responsible version of you who keeps everything together.

And that woman longs to feel something more.

When you’ve been living disconnected from this version of you, any space that allows you to drop the mask can feel intoxicating. And when it ends, it can feel like you have lost not just a person, but access to yourself.

In this conversation, we explore:

Why longing after an affair doesn’t automatically mean you want to betray again
The difference between intensity and wholeness
How years of self-abandonment can leave you feeling flat without you even realising it
Why taking responsibility alone does not resolve the internal split
What it really means to bring that woman home without secrecy, chaos, or self-punishment

If you are stuck in the tension between wanting to move forward and still feeling pulled backward, this episode will help you understand what is actually happening underneath the longing.

You are not missing him. You are missing yourself. And that is something you can reclaim through coming home to yourself.

This is the work we do in the Healed Heart. We begin in April 2026.

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