Her Actual Reasons For Divorce - Stop the Confusion

I often hear from my clients and viewers that they just don’t get why she left, when they didn’t actually do anything wrong! Sure, they made a few mistakes, but that’s human. Nothing worth divorce. This is one of the ways how divorce changes a man - leaving him feeling confused, bitter and deeply mistrustful towards other women.

In this video I help you understand how and why this happens, and I share one powerful, simple way to break free from those painful feelings and open up the possibility of a happier future for yourself.

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I’m Rachael Sloan, Master NLP Practitioner, certified life coach, and the creator of Better Beyond Divorce. I've helped hundreds of men move past the shock, betrayal, grief and anger they experience both during and after a divorce, to a place of clarity, calm and confidence. I hope to help you do the same.

DISCLAIMER: I am a Master NLP Practitioner and personal growth mentor. The material in this video represents my understanding and experience and nothing more. This content is not meant to replace professional medical advice, treatment or diagnosis. Always consult your medical provider before making any changes to your treatment.


Women give a lot of reasons for divorce. Loss of intimacy, control, poor communication, feeling unappreciated, unrespected, unloved and so on. For men, this often comes as a bit of a shock. Sure, these are problems that should be addressed, but are they true failures of the marriage? Do they warrant divorce? It sure doesn’t feel like it for most men.

I often see this being a key element of how divorce changes a man. It’s one of the main reasons life after divorce for a man can be so challenging. When your ex wife leaves you, citing weak reasons for divorce, it makes you question both yourself and her. For many men it seems crazy to even imagine trusting a woman again, which makes moving on after divorce or having meaningful relationships again really challenging.

Surviving divorce and moving on after divorce is much easier if you understand the real reasons your ex wife left in the first place. She might not actually understand the true underlying reason herself! But it’s there. The problem isn’t that you had an unsuccessful marriage or that you were a bad husband. The problem is ultimately the communication or intimacy. It’s loneliness. People get divorced when they feel alone. If you want to get past divorce and move on, you have to look below the surface, past your ex wife’s aggression or complaints, and see the underlying doubts, fears and needs, in her and in you.