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Being assertive means getting your way.  Being assertive means you take force to get what you want, when you want.  Here at the Nothing New Podcast we think different…. Being assertive means to us that you get an outcome that serves both you and your party.  It’s an outcome that we both can live with and agree with.  It will allow you to focus, and achieve what is possible, rather than thinking of what is not possible.  The 3 ways of behaving in a situation: Aggressive behavior:  This is taking a stand and believing in your rights which leads to violating someone else’s rights. Mentality = I win you lose Passive agressive:  When you fail to stand up for your rights, or stand up in an apologetic way that people just brush them off with disregard.  Or this can be failing to express your feelings at all. Mentality = I lose or give up and you win. Assertive:  Is when you stand up for what you believe but in doing so you do not step on anyones toes.  You express your opinion, and say what you truly feel is correct and true.  Mentality = win,win The 3 main goals of assertive listening; 1.  We need to let others know that we care and want to know and understand their point 2.  We need to make sure that we 100% understand what they are telling us 3.  We need to let them know that we understand everything that was said. Is it always correct to act with assertiveness?  I think that depends if you can live with the outcome or not.  Can you live with the consequences?  An option would be to tell the person you are communicating with what you are doing, and explaining to them first before you speak your mind. -Can you be honest Realize that Behavior is capturing;  if someone is angry towards you , the reaction is typically to be angry back.  Even if you reply back in an assertive way you will not immediately be given an assertive reaction either, in fact they might even become more aggressive, but if you can keep your cool and stay assertive that person will realize they too need to be assertive or the conversation will end.