Your Spouse Wants to Eat and You Want to Lose Weight- 3 ways to handle it

3 ways to handle your spouse wanting you to eat with them when you are trying to lose weight
5min episode

This pops up often for my clients- your spouse has a different metabolism than you, they can eat 3 or 4 meals a day and lose weight. You on the other hand aren’t really hungry or you’re trying to lose weight so that doesn’t really work for you. However, your spouse gets upset when you don’t want to eat with them.
My husband absolutely hates it when I don’t want to eat with him. Lately, since we had our baby he has been cooking for me a lot. Which is super sweet but i’m not hungry and i don’t want to hurt his feelings.

So, here are 3 ways to manage this scenario

Adjust how much you eat the rest of the day. If they cook for you for instance and you’re not that hungry just wait until you get hungry to eat again…you can skip another meal later in the day.
Prep them ahread of time: i forewarn my husband if he is cooking or wanting to go out to eat that I am not very hungry and I am not eat or eat that much. This helps to set that expectation for him. I may take a few bites and save the rest for later or offer to split something with him
You can say no: this was hard for me to learn but I use it regularly. You have to be willing to let the other person have whatever emotion they are going to have if you choose to not eat with them. They might be angry, annoyed, frustrated. They might say a lot of not very nice things to you. You have to hold fast to yourself. I am not hungry and i don’t enjoy eating when I am not hungry. No amount of badgering from the other person can change the fact that I don’t like to eat when I am not hungry.

Hi, my name is Hayley Sohn and I am a Nutritionist and Brain Training Weight Loss Coach.
I teach my clients how to lose 10lbs in 30 days without dieting by wiring their brain to eat less.
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