Let it go and it will come back (power of detachment)

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00:00 The fear of letting go
01:43 Intention vs. Outcome
02:47 The power of vulnerability
05:16 The energy of resistance
05:59 Be who you prefer to be
08:15 Trust yourself & the universe
10:18 Why we do attach
12:59 How to connect with the divine
14:21 The universe doesn't make mistakes
17:14 Inner child meditation

The fear is, if I let this thing go, then it's not gonna come around. If I let go of the outcome of something, then I'm not actually going to receive it.

I'm not actually gonna be able to get what I want. But see, that's the furthest thing from the truth. What actually happens is the more attachment we have to outcome, the more attachment we have to people.

The more attachment we have to certain situations, the more resistance we also have. And think about it. Think to your own life, the more you've wanted something, the more you've tried to control the situation, the more energetically people can feel that.

And the more off putting it is to people as well. So it's actually like imagine the universe is conspiring to give you what is in vibrational alignment to you.

But if we're hammering in the vibration and the energy of, "I hope this thing goes well. I hope this thing goes well. I hope this person gets back to me. I hope this happens. I hope this happens."

Then there's resistance created. And also the energy is that right here in the present moment right now, there's resistance. It's not what I want it to be. So the thing is, is the belief that's there, is I must control what other people are doing.

I must control how other people perceive me. And then what'll happen is everything will work out. The thing is, is it's not how it works. You must actually let go to then allow things to happen smoothly.

You can still have an intention by the way. You can have an intention, but when the intention is also on a means to an end, that also causes problems.

For example, if I have this intention that I'm going to be vulnerable to someone else, because there's a conversation I need to have, maybe it's even a hard conversation to have.

If the intention is I want this person to come around and understand me and I want this person to act and be a certain way, that's attachment to outcome.

And that is also a form of control. It's a form of manipulation that other people can feel by the way too. People can feel when someone else wants something from them.

But instead, if my intention is I'm going to be vulnerable, I'm gonna lead with vulnerability, and share something that is kind of uncomfortable to share and see how this person responds.

That's an end of itself. I am being vulnerable because it's who I choose to be, not because of the result it will get me. Now the interesting thing is that when you are vulnerable, that normally is a heart opening experience.

Other people can also feel that. And a lot of times when you lead with vulnerability, you create an opening for someone else to have an opening and you go deeper with a connection.

Now, in an interesting way, I'll share something with you that's somewhat vulnerable, but it has to do with, it has to do with some people on my team. It has to do with a certain area of my business.

And there were certain things that, there was this situation that was happening to where things just felt very much out of alignment. And basically what happened is the team and I got together and we decided that something was out of alignment and we had to have this hard conversation with someone.

And it was a conversation that was not comfortable. And the intention was, let's be vulnerable and let's see what happens. Because we just have to get it out. We can't let this energy go underneath.

There's something that feels out of alignment. So the interesting thing was there was certain people on the team that wanted certain outcome and there's certain people that wanted a different outcome out of this.

Like they had their own opinions about it. The funny thing is there was like this budding of heads on the team and it was almost like the more attached to our positions we were, the more the other people could feel that.

And the more this like tension was created. What eventually happened is all of us let go of the outcome. We let go and said, "Whatever's happened will happen but we need to have this conversation."

And we had this vulnerable conversation, and the interesting thing was that the moment we let go is the moment everything began to smooth out.

The more we were able to open up. The more we were able to express this in a conversation, and it brought us all a lot closer.

But the funny thing is, is there was like on, because we had different perspectives of this situation, which I'm not gonna go into the details of. It was like as long as we were attached to positions, we were each like in our own way.