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If you constantly feel the need to explain yourself - your choices , your boundaries, your opinions - you’re not being clear “.

You’re slowly training people to question you. And today , we’re fixing that.

The Hidden Cost of Over Explaining .

Over explaining feels harmless , polite , even . But here’s what it actually communicates.

1. I’m not sure my decision is valid”.
2. Please approve of this .
3. I need you to agree with me.

And once people sense that hesitation!! They lean into it .

You say . I can’t make it tonight . I’ve just super busy and I haven’t slept well and I have this thing tomorrow and blabla….

When all you needed to say was
I can’t make it tonight .

Why we Do it .
Over Explaining usually comes from one of three places :

1. Fear of conflict
2. Fear of rejection
3. Fear of being misunderstood.

So we pile on details to prevent pushbacks .

But here the truth :
If someone wants to misunderstand you, no amount of explaining will fix it .