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Here’s a 5-step method to fix codependency:

If you feel irritated, guilty or have negative thoughts, answer these questions:

1) What upset me?

Example: ”I’m upset that they don’t want to spend time with me.”

2) How did that make me feel?

Example: “It makes me feel like I’m unimportant, like they secretly hate being around me.”

3) What do THEY need to feel seen and safe? What do I need to feel seen and safe?

Example: “They need to be seen by their friends, and to feel that our relationship is safe” and “I need reassurance and quality time.”

4) Now share steps 1-3 with your partner.

Example: "I felt upset and was passive-aggressive the other night when you hung out with your friends. I was worried that you might not enjoy spending time with me, but I understand that you need time with your friends too. I just need some reassurance from you sometimes, and I'd like to spend some quality time with you as well. Can we work on this together?"

5) Collaborate on strategies to be able to come toward each other with this information!

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