10 signs of emotionally and physically abusive relationships

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In this video, we’re going to discuss a hard topic, abusive relationships. I’m going to discuss the four main categories of an emotional abusive relationship, which can be a very complex dynamic and not always easy to identify when you’re in it, until you’re deep in it. We will then identify the 10 signs of an abusive relationships, as well as what you can do about it and how you can heal from it.

In cases of psychological abuse, also known as emotional abuse, the abuser uses words and actions to frighten, control, and isolate their partner. Emotional abuse includes the following categories and signs of abusive behavior:
Humiliation
Control
Blaming and gaslighting
Neglect and isolation

10 Signs of an Abusive Relationship
1. You don’t feel free to make your own choices
2. You’re always apologizing
3. You don’t talk about the relationship with friends or family
4. Your partner “love bombs” you
5. You feel like everything that’s wrong with the relationship is your fault
6. Your disagreements turn into intense fights
7. You never know which version of your partner you’re going to get
8. You get shut down when you try to communicate
9. You’ve lost confidence in your own perspective
10. You’ve forgotten what you used to be like before the relationship

Recovering from emotional abuse starts with recognizing that the abuse took place, rather than minimizing or denying it to yourself. The next step is to start changing those mental patterns that are linked to abuse. This includes shifting negative thoughts and beliefs, such as thinking the abuse was your fault, that you will never be in a heathy relationship, or that you could have done something different that would have prevented the abuse. In addition, healing from an emotionally abusive relationship involves honoring your own needs and desires by doing what you love and what makes you truly happy. This includes promoting authentic connections with trusted friends who have your best interests at heart, and practicing self-care to rebalance the nervous system after the chronic stress of an abusive relationship.

Lastly, find a mental health provider to help you work through this and change those patterns that kept you in and perhaps, continuing to seek relationships with a high probability for abuse.

Daniel J. Fox, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist in Texas, international speaker, and a multi-award winning author. He has been specializing in the treatment and assessment of individuals with personality disorders for over 15 years in the state and federal prison system, universities, and in private practice. His specialty areas include personality disorders, ethics, burnout prevention, and emotional intelligence.

He has published several articles in these areas and is the author of:

Antisocial, Narcissistic, and Borderline Personality Disorders: A New Conceptualization of Development, Reinforcement, Expression, and Treatment. Available at: https://tinyurl.com/2anv8dww

The Borderline Personality Disorder Workbook: An Integrative Program to Understand and Manage Your BPD. Available at: https://goo.gl/LQEgy1

Antisocial, Borderline, Narcissistic and Histrionic Workbook: Treatment Strategies for Cluster B Personality Disorders (IPBA Benjamin Franklin Gold Award Winner): https://goo.gl/BLRkFy

Narcissistic Personality Disorder Toolbox: 55 Practical Treatment Techniques for Clients, Their Parents & Their Children (IPBA Benjamin Franklin Silver Award Winner):: https://goo.gl/sZYhym

The Clinician’s Guide to Diagnosis and Treatment of Personality Disorders: https://goo.gl/ZAVe9v

Dr. Fox has given numerous workshops and seminars on ethics and personality disorders, personality disorders and crime, treatment solutions for treating clients along the antisocial, borderline, narcissistic, and histrionic personality spectrum, emotional intelligence, managing mental health within the prison system, and others. Dr. Fox maintains a website of various treatment interventions focused on working with and attenuating the symptomatology related to individuals along the antisocial, borderline, narcissistic, and histrionic personality spectrum (www.drdfox.com).

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