Why Is No One Listening To You? | 6 Reasons Why People DONT Listen To You (STOP DOING THESE)

In this video, Danish tells you why no one listens to you while you speak.

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Have you ever felt that people don't listen to you while you speak or just thought to yourself “No one listens to me, what am I doing wrong?” You must’ve often felt that there’s no point expressing when it feels like you’re talking to a wall.

There are several communication mistakes you can make while speaking, that make people shut their ears and brains off to you. In this piece, we’re primarily focusing on issues from the speaker’s end by answering the question “why no one listens to me?” and ways to make people listen.

1. You ramble and lack direction
People tend to get carried away while speaking and end up speaking more than what’s needed. It’s a common mistake which is like chasing a rabbit trail where you lack proper flow and direction. This often leads to you deviating from the topic at hand or going into several directions at once, making it difficult for the listener to follow. This lack of a clear direction can make the listener disinterested in what you have to say. I mean would you be interested in listening to someone who just goes around in circles without a point?


2. You lack clarity
The second reason why people are not listening to you is that you aren’t sure of what you’re saying, that is, you lack clarity of speech. Firstly, it’s the lack of understanding and secondly, it’s the lack of clear communication. It’s hard to make others listen to you when you aren’t clear about your thoughts. And it’s even harder when you can’t communicate those thoughts in a simple, structured, and concise manner for others to follow. It’s possible that you’re speaking too fast or pausing too much, find more about the ideal rate of speech here.


3. You lack confidence
Marcus Garvey once said, “with confidence, you have won before you have started” and truer words have never been spoken. We’ve often heard the question “how to be confident in public speaking” being asked because the lack of confidence can break your speech and make you invisible to your audience or colleagues, even if your words are great. If the listener feels that you lack confidence in your words, then it’s a given that they won’t have confidence in them either. Imagine you’re listening to someone speak about Artificial Intelligence, but they constantly contradict their statements, do you think you’ll listen to them after a while?


4. You only speak for yourself
Along with asking yourself “why no one listens to me?” also ask yourself “Am I speaking for everyone or just myself?” Speaking after taking everyone into account doesn’t come naturally to most and thus, a blunder that you can make is speaking only from your point of view without considering others. Effective communication is only possible if all parties involved feel involved, hence, when you only speak for yourself, it can lead to fading interest as well as reduced attention. Your communication needs to factor in how it’ll affect or impact others, and how your audience or colleagues are involved. For example, if you’re discussing a possible marketing proposal with your team, you need to talk of everyone’s roles and ask for everyone’s inputs rather than just your own.


5. Your body language and words don’t match
Body language includes your posture, your facial expressions, and your hand gestures, and can hugely impact whether someone listens to you or not. On one hand, if used properly, it can add strength to your verbal message and improve it manifold. On the other hand, if you lack energy, have a stiff posture, and are expressionless, it can make the listener disinterested and possibly bored. In fact, studies show that your words only convey about 7% of what you're trying to say. The other 93% is communicated through facial expressions and the tone of your voice.


6. You’re not open-minded and are interruptive
Sometimes the answer to your ‘why no one listens to me’, can be “You don’t listen to them.” Finally, being open-minded is a valuable part of good communication, and people tend to forget that. So, one reason why someone isn’t listening to you can be because you are not open to other ideas, are interruptive, and aren’t a great listener yourself. You’ll eventually lose the attention of a person whose views you don’t take into consideration. If you show a lack of interest or interrupt the other person, you’ll get the same in return. Download App: (https://invite.oraiapp.com/iWEB/69bc5c5d)