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Do you struggle with disorganized attachment where you crave closeness but fear it? Adam Lane Smith explains why it happens, how it affects love, and ways to build secure relationships.

Topics Covered
👉 What disorganized attachment is and how it differs from anxious and avoidant styles
👉 Why relationships often collapse at the 3–4 month mark for those with this style
👉 The difference between loud disorganized (outward explosions) and quiet disorganized (internal implosions)
👉 Childhood traumas and survival mechanisms that create disorganized attachment
👉 How the nervous system drives contradictory urges of craving and fearing closeness
👉 Why traditional relationship advice fails and what works instead
👉 Practical steps to move from disorganized to secure attachment

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Chapters:
00:00 Introduction: The Chaos of Disorganized Attachment
02:30 Pattern Recognition: Flipping Between Craving & Avoiding
04:00 What Disorganized Attachment Looks Like
07:20 Werewolf Transformation: Survival Mechanisms
10:30 Misdiagnosis vs. Disorganized Attachment
13:00 Loud vs. Quiet Disorganized Attachment Explained
17:00 Why You Don’t Fit Classic Attachment Styles
19:30 Deep Childhood Trauma: The Roots of Disorganized Attachment
24:30 The Psychological Toll and Minimizing Trauma
26:20 How Sabotage Shows Up in Loud and Quiet Styles
29:30 Relationship Patterns & The 90-Day Destruction Cycle
31:30 The Paralysis and Destruction Patterns in Relationships
34:40 Shared Attachment Patterns & Why Standard Advice Fails
38:00 Transformation is Possible: Understanding Your Nervous System
41:20 Step-by-Step: The Three-Phase Healing Process
44:30 Building Secure Attachment: What Real Change Looks Like
47:00 You’re Not Broken: Lasting Change Is Possible
48:00 Join the Journey: Resources and Final Words

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