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This one's going to ruffle feathers. I don't care.
Therapy culture—the Instagram therapists, TikTok psychologists, and wellness influencers—is feeding you myths that sound empowering but are actually keeping you stuck.

Today I'm calling out the five biggest mental health myths that have taken over modern therapy culture:

MYTH #1: "Everything is a trauma response"
Spoiler: Sometimes you're just avoiding responsibility.
MYTH #2: "Healing means cutting off everyone who doesn't serve your highest good"
Spoiler: This is creating an epidemic of loneliness, not liberation.
MYTH #3: "Self-care means doing whatever feels good"
Spoiler: Real self-care is often uncomfortable.
MYTH #4: "You have to heal your inner child before you can move forward"
Spoiler: You heal THROUGH living, not before living.
MYTH #5: "If you're still struggling, therapy isn't working"
Spoiler: Struggling might mean it IS working.

This episode is uncomfortable. It's controversial. Some of you will be mad.
But if you're serious about actual growth—not just performing growth on social media—you need to hear this.

IN THIS EPISODE:
✅ Why not everything is a trauma response (and how this label disempowers you)
✅ The dark side of "cut off toxic people" culture
✅ What self-care actually means (hint: it's not bubble baths)
✅ Why waiting to be "healed" keeps you stuck forever
✅ The truth about therapy that nobody tells you
✅ How to distinguish real healing from performance

THE HARD TRUTHS:
On Trauma: Calling everything trauma minimizes real trauma and prevents you from taking responsibility for your choices.
On Boundaries: Cutting people off isn't always healthy—sometimes you're just avoiding conflict and accountability.
On Self-Care: Discipline IS self-care. Doing hard things for your future self IS self-care.
On Inner Child Work: Your inner child needs you to be a responsible adult, not write more letters.
On Therapy: Struggling doesn't mean it's not working—healing is messy and non-linear.


📚 RESEARCH MENTIONED:
Dr. Bessel van der Kolk on Capital-T vs. lowercase-t trauma
Dr. John Gottman's relationship research on conflict repair
Marshmallow test and self-regulation studies
Post-traumatic growth research
Therapeutic progress and non-linear healing

⚠️ IMPORTANT DISCLAIMER:
This episode critiques therapy CULTURE, not therapy itself. Therapy is valuable. Trauma is real. Self-care matters.
What I'm challenging is: the oversimplified, Instagram-friendly versions of these concepts that are actually preventing real growth.
If you have real trauma, please work with a qualified professional.
If you're in an abusive situation, please get safe.
This episode is about the misuse and overuse of mental health language, not the legitimate application of it.

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What We Discuss:
0:00 - Therapy Culture Is Lying to You
2:15 - MYTH #1: Everything Is a Trauma Response
7:30 - MYTH #2: Cut Off Everyone Toxic
12:45 - MYTH #3: Self-Care = Whatever Feels Good
18:00 - MYTH #4: Heal Your Inner Child First
23:15 - MYTH #5: Still Struggling = Therapy Failed
28:30 - The Hard Truth You Need to Hear

💬 CONTROVERSIAL TAKES:
"Not everything that's uncomfortable is toxic."
"Real self-care often requires discipline, not indulgence."
"You don't have to be fully healed to live your life."
"Sometimes you're not triggered—you're just avoiding responsibility."
This will be polarizing. That's the point.

Drop a 💙 if you're ready for real growth, not performative healing.



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