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You know what’s interesting?
People think peace comes from being recognized.
From being understood.
From being approved.

And yes when someone approves of you,
your brain feels rewarded.
It feels sweet.

But it never lasts.

Because the moment approval fades,

fear comes back.

“What if they don’t see me anymore?”

“What if I fall behind?”

“What if I’m not enough without this?”

So you keep moving.

Climbing.

Proving.

And slowly, you become heavy.

That heaviness isn’t weakness.

It’s your brain doing its job.

Your nervous system learned this rule early:

“Being accepted keeps me safe.”

So it rewards recognition with dopamine.

And it uses shame and guilt to pull you back

whenever you step outside the group’s standards.

It’s not evil.

It’s survival.

But here’s what we forget.

Fear doesn’t come from reality.

It comes from uncertainty.

And without God,

humans don’t know how to rest inside uncertainty.

So we grab what feels controllable:

titles, standards, ladders, comparisons.

And we mistake them for love.

But love was never on the ladder.

Love is already here.

Like sunlight.

It doesn’t ask if you earned it.

It doesn’t measure your position.

It just shines.

The problem isn’t that love disappeared.

It’s that we stopped looking at it.

Chasing approval is like wearing winter clothes forever.

Layer after layer.

Just in case it gets cold.

But peace doesn’t come from enduring winter.

It comes from changing locations.

Choosing joy isn’t forcing positivity.

It’s moving toward warmth.

So next time you feel heavy, ask yourself:

Is this thought coming from fear of uncertainty?

Or is joy trying to move through me right now?

You don’t need to fight fear.

Just don’t let it lead.

You don’t need more approval.

You don’t need another layer.

You were already loved

before you proved anything.

Follow the light.

Follow the joy.

You already have what it takes.