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Everything is Normal in Grief...

To Do Something Despite It Being Hard

I used to LOVE to go to the airport to fly to England for a visit, I would be counting down the number of sleeps with my sister Lisa, like a kid would to Christmas, to fly day.

Even during Lisa's 6 year incurable cancer journey, we did the count down, the flight post Covid lockdown was the most epic.

This all changed when she called me home, as treatment had ceased working.

I am not a "just do it", "just get on with it", "effort through" person. When it came to flying to England, I knew I HAD to make that first trip since she died, as I stood a very good chance of not wanting to ever get on a plane to England again. I knew with loving compassion, I needed to go through the motions, as I wanted, what I would hope would be on the other side, of going through the motions enough times for it to move from "this it horrible" to "neutral" to what I hope with all hope will be "enjoyable" again, one day.

Lisa is still listed as my emergency contact by default on my airline account, I cannot bring myself to change that, that is a bridge too far for me....for now....and that is okay.

This was one of my hard things, there is a litany of hard things in grief, especially in the early days-weeks-months and years to traverse. Each of ours will look different, cause different responses within us, and how we traverse them look different. Go easy on yourself, choose the ones that call to you, give yourself all the self-compassion, breath and take one tinny tiny step at a time.

Another layer to this, I recorded this video in November at the airport, it's taken me 3 months to be able to post, as it is such a hard thing, and again, that is okay.

Take care of you

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