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Most people try to communicate while their nervous system is still in survival.

It never works.

In this video, I explain why regulation must come before communication, and why skipping that middle step keeps people stuck in reactive patterns at home, at work, and in relationships.

We move through the Wolfpack Way sequence:
Triggers
Survival
Regulation
Presence
Leadership

The mistake most people make is trying to jump straight from survival to talking it out.
Your nervous system will not allow that.

Regulation is not harm.
Regulation is not perfection.
And regulation is not shutting down or ignoring how you feel.

Regulation is pausing.
Grounding.
Breathing.
Softening your shoulders.
Unclenching your jaw.
Slowing your voice.

It’s creating 10 to 20 seconds of space before responding.

That pause interrupts the survival pattern.
Presence rebuilds connection.
Leadership guides the moment back to safety.

This is what nervous-system leadership looks like in real life.

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