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English translation of this video is below 👇 Naheed Noor gives us best tips for successful marriage.Naheed Noor share her experience with us how should we choose mother in law. Best tips for marriage by naheed noor.
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Assalam o alaikum!

I’m receiving a lot of comments from my viewers asking “ how a mother in law should be”.
So in today’s video I will share my honest experience from what I got through and what I observed in my life.

1. A mother in law shouldn’t be talking too much. In our society the one who talks too much isn’t considered a wise one because it’s a sign that such a person can share anything and can express he or she has in her mind and won’t think what is appropriate to talk and what’s not. On the other hand the one who don’t talk much is considered wise. In simple I mean such a person who don’t talk much, he or she is able to control his or her tongue and can balance how to communicate and has a better and peaceful Conversation because the more one talks the more chance he is going to make a mistake and this can lead to a clash between a mother in law and a daughter in law.

2. Try to know how she was treated in her in law’s house. Because the way a women is treated in her in law’s house there is a great chance that she may treat her daughter in law the same way regardless of how good the daughter in law is. Unfortunately this thing exists in our society and this needs to be changed. If the women tried to stop propagating this bad habit of our society to our next generation our society can be a better one.

3. A mother in law shouldn’t be showing off everything. I mean she shouldn’t be showing off her wealth like she shouldn’t be mentioning in every conversation that her family did this and her family did that or is doing that for her. Allah doesn’t like show off and the biggest reason is such people consider wealth their standard. Like such people can be annoyed at some things a daughter in law brings in her dowry stuff which aren’t quite expensive. They consider things like this against their standards and this thing destroys lives. Even I’ve seen in many weddings that some people show off those things they don’t really have and they say we had this and we have that but they don’t have and most of them gets exposed but the bad thing is most of the people get impressed and by them and they accept the proposal.

4. A mother in law shouldn’t be talking so sweetly and politely . You people must be wondering why I am saying this? What’s bad in talking in a sweet manner? Because such a daughter in law isn’t permanent in such habbit. I mean she must have adopted such accents just for a temporary time to get her proposal accepted and that’s it and it’s very impractical in life for such a person to adopt and maintain this beautiful habbit for long term.
One of my friends told me that when she met her mother in law the first time she were told that she will be behaved like a real daughter after marriage and she will be given this kind of love and that and guess what?? There was nothing like what mentioned to her when she got married and the things turned to be opposite. And I remember when I was searching for my son’s spouse I was told that I should pretend very good in front of them to get the proposal accepted immediately but I refused that I will act what I am and there’s no need to act totally different from what my personality is. So I think this acting never work in practical life and we should be aware of it.

5. A mother in law should be god fearing because such a person know how to deal a specific situation in what moment of life and she doesn’t just follow what she thinks and feels but she looks for what Allah says and orders to do so she deals every situation accordingly. In short I can say that one who don’t have god fearing is an animal and nothing else because this is what which differentiate us from animals. Some people asks in comments that their very close relative turned out to be very harsh when they did a rishta with them. What I think is different. I think that we shouldn’t consider our close relative to be on top priority for rishta rather we should look for god fearing either in relatives or strangers. Because if one fears god then there’s no way she will treat you unjust regardless of she is your relative or not.

Now some tips which you must take into consideration:

One of the red flags is when they want the proposal to be accepted as soon as possible. It’s a red flag because some people are in hurry they want to hide something or they are afraid of something.
Another red flag is after proposal,acceptance a boy not respecting the girl or vice versa. Because where there is no respect or there’s disrespect, there must be a fight and there are a lot of problems created in future.
I hope you have learned something and enjoyed the video. May bless all our daughters a good family ahead. Ameen