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Is Marriage Really the Mountaintop? Let’s talk about worth, identity, performance—and the lies we’ve been sold.

This episode isn’t just about marriage. It’s about the pressure to be chosen, the way we’ve been conditioned—especially as Black women—to believe our value is tied to relationship status. That being a wife is the ultimate achievement. That single equals second class.

I’m calling that out—and telling the truth.

You’ll hear about:
– Why marriage became a status symbol (especially for Black women)
– The unspoken hierarchy: Single → Girlfriend → Fiancé → Wife
– Grief, identity, and losing the life you thought you’d have
– How we perform worthiness instead of living it
– Choosing peace and truth over optics and applause

If you’ve ever felt unseen, ashamed, or like your life doesn’t fit the script—you’re not alone. This is the episode that started as a voice note and turned into my most honest truth yet.

Because being chosen isn’t the goal. Choosing yourself is.

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If you want to know who I really am—start here.

This episode isn’t just about marriage. It’s about everything that gets wrapped up in it: worth, identity, pressure, performance, legacy, grief, and the lies we’ve been sold about what makes a life “valid.”

In this deeply personal, layered conversation, I say something I’ve never said out loud:
Being married is not a flex.

We’ve been programmed—especially as Black women—to believe our value is tied to someone choosing us. That becoming a wife means we’ve “made it.” That anything else is failure.

But this episode isn’t just about relationships.

It’s about the grief of losing the life I thought I’d have.
The quiet shame of not hitting the milestones.
The friendships that faded when I needed them most.
The work of coming back to yourself after everything changes.

We go there—into the unspoken hierarchy, the pressure to perform, and the deep unlearning required to reclaim your truth.

If you’ve ever felt unseen, quietly ashamed, or stuck performing a life that no longer fits—this one’s for you.

This isn’t about being chosen.
It’s about choosing yourself.

💥 What We Unpack:
– Why marriage became a status symbol (especially for Black women)
– The silent ladder: Single → Girlfriend → Fiancé → Wife
– Respectability politics & the performance of “wifehood”
– What actually makes a relationship sacred
– Choosing peace, truth, and alignment—over optics

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🔁 Share this with someone who needs the reminder:
Your worth was never supposed to wear a ring.