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Why can my parents survive Partition trauma, but I can't handle a bad day at work?
If you've ever felt this guilt, this episode is for you.
Trauma care vs stress care vs depression care, what's the real difference, and how do you know what you're actually going through? In this raw, necessary conversation, we break down Big-T trauma, little-t trauma, complex trauma, depression, grief, fight/flight/freeze, and why South Asian families still can't talk about mental health without shame.
Guest: Jessie Dhaliwal – Trauma-informed RCC counsellor, crime victim specialist, and founder of Solidarity Therapy. She works with survivors of violence, helps break intergenerational pain cycles, and yes, she had to teach her own Punjabi mother what depression actually means.
⭐ What We Unpack:

✨ The Science Made Simple:
Stress vs trauma vs depression and why your body doesn't know the difference between a tiger attack and chronic family conflict
Window of Tolerance: Why you swing between rage and shutdown
How grief gets misdiagnosed as depression (and why grief has no timeline)
Anniversary reactions: your body remembers trauma even when your mind doesn't

✨The South Asian Reality:
"Log kya kahenge?" How shame kills mental health conversations
Immigrant survival mode parenting and how it silently passes pain to the next generation
Why saying "adjust kar lo" causes long-term emotional damage
The privilege (and responsibility) of healing when your parents never could

✨Gender & Pain:
Why women turn anger inward and how it destroys health over decades
Why men are taught to suppress emotions (and how it backfires in relationships)
The hidden epidemic: childhood bullying, sexual abuse, and violence in "good families."
How both genders need different but equally urgent healing paths

✨The Controversial Questions:
Can you heal without justice after horrific abuse?
What is "sacred rage" and why healing ≠ "forgive and forget"
Should trauma history be disclosed before an arranged marriage?
Is therapy betrayal? (Confidentiality explained for worried families)
Why do we have MORE mental health awareness but MORE depression?

✨Practical Healing:

What to do when therapy isn't accessible (breathwork, yoga, nature, community)
LENS neurofeedback explained how it regulates your nervous system to make talk therapy actually work
Realistic timelines: What changes in 12 sessions vs what takes years
How to listen without fixing when your child shares pain
Why somatic (body-based) healing releases what talk therapy can't reach

✨This episode is for:
Anyone navigating stress, depression, grief, or emotional shutdown
Parents who survived trauma but don't know how to help their struggling kids
People are triggered by family gatherings, relationship conflicts, or work stress
Those asking "Why am I so sensitive?" when really, you're carrying unprocessed pain
Anyone told to "just pray about it" when they needed actual support


KEY CHAPTERS ⏱️
00:00 – Hook: Why your parents survived worse, but you're "too sensitive."
02:47 – Trauma vs Stress vs Depression (the real difference)
08:38 – Why South Asian families can't talk mental health
13:46 – "Log kya kahenge?" Shame, stigma & silence
18:25 – Why the next generation struggles even though parents survived
23:05 – What "holding space" means in therapy
34:56 – Gender roles: Girls adjust, boys suppress
37:49 – Hidden violence & sexual abuse in "good families."
42:20 – When kids repeat pain—how parents should respond
46:47 – Myth: "People with fire don't get depressed."
50:57 – Crime victims: Healing day one vs years later
56:35 – Can you heal without justice?
01:00:36 – Sacred rage: Healing without "forgive & forget."
01:05:15 – LENS neurofeedback explained simply
01:15:34 – Arranged marriage & trauma disclosure debate
01:22:39 – Realistic healing timelines

RESOURCES
🌐 Solidarity Therapy: solidaritytherapy.ca
📱 Follow Jessie: @jessiedhaliwaltherapy
🆘 Crisis Support (India): Vandrevala 1860-2662-345 | iCall 9152987821
⚠️ Content Warning: This episode discusses trauma, abuse, violence, depression, grief, and family pain. Help available.

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