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Which quadrant are you in? Learn how the Relationship Grid (One Up vs. One Down, Walled Off vs. Boundaryless) explains toxic dynamics that impact our health and relationships. More at: https://lissarankin.com

Which Quadrant Are You In? Understanding Power, Boundaries & Relational Dynamics
with Dr. Lissa Rankin | RelationSick Preview

Do you tend to be the one who over-functions—or the one who disappears? Are you controlling, avoidant, people-pleasing, or deeply withdrawn?

In this video, Dr. Lissa Rankin introduces the Relationship Grid, a powerful diagnostic tool from Relational Life Therapy (developed by Terry Real), which maps four dysfunctional relational patterns across two axes: power dynamics (One Up vs. One Down) and boundaries (Boundaryless vs. Walled Off).

These patterns are foundational to RelationSick, Dr. Rankin’s upcoming book (co-authored with Harvard psychiatrist Dr. Jeffrey Rediger), releasing in May 2026.

💡 In this video, you’ll:

Discover the 4 quadrants of relational dysfunction:
Boundaryless + One Up
Walled Off + One Up
Boundaryless + One Down
Walled Off + One Down

• Learn how these dynamics show up in everyday relationships (romantic, familial, professional)
• Recognize your own relational default—and why it may be making you sick
• Understand how opposites attract: why One Ups are drawn to One Downs and vice versa

Begin the process of mapping your relational ecosystem with curiosity, not shame

🌀 Want to go deeper?
Explore this model more intimately through LOVE SCHOOL, Dr. Rankin’s IFS-based community for relational recovery, available now at https://lissarankin.com.

💬 Drop a comment with what quadrant you resonate with—or what surprised you most.

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