Скачать или смотреть Episode 5 | The Armour We Keep Wearing: Breaking Trauma Patterns with Dana Grant

In this powerful conversation, Lydia is joined by Dana Grant, host of The Dana Grant Show and author of The Truth Within the Lie for an honest, trauma-aware look at what happens when “survival mode” starts collapsing. Dana shares how childhood trauma, perfectionism, and self-abandonment shaped her life, and how healing began when she stopped outsourcing safety and started building it within.

This episode is a compassionate reminder: you’re not “too much”, you’re not broken and you can interrupt the patterns that kept you safe once, but are keeping you stuck now.
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What we cover
•Why many people don’t realise they’re living in trauma responses until survival strategies stop working
•Dana’s decade of severe migraines and prescription narcotic dependence and the moment she realised it was killing her
•How trauma blurs the lines between love, safety, attachment, and “needing” something to cope
•Perfection paralysis”, self-sabotage, and how success can be trauma-driven
•The “armour” we keep putting back on (ego protection) and why it becomes exhausting over time
•Heart-centred living vs reactive living: learning to pause, breathe, and respond
•Building trust in yourself again (and why Dana doesn’t advise “trust your gut” as your main compass)
•Practical daily anchors: simple affirmations, mirror check-ins, and creating micro-shifts instead of “quantum leaps”
•Shame as a low-vibration state (and why compassion is essential for sustainable change)
•Breaking generational cycles through accountability, boundaries, and self-respect
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Who this episode is for
•Anyone who feels stuck in cycles of chaos, overthinking, people-pleasing, or self-sabotage
•Survivors who learned to survive by becoming “in control” (and feel exhausted by it now)
•People healing from family patterns like addiction, emotional neglect, or chronic conflict
•Anyone who feels “too much” and is ready to stop apologising for their nervous system’s coping strategies
•Listeners wanting simple, repeatable practices (not complicated routines) to support regulation and self-trust
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Key takeaways
•Survival strategies aren’t moral failures. They’re often the only tools you had at the time , and they got you here.
•The ego’s job is protection. But old “armour” can become heavy when it’s no longer needed.
•Healing often starts with radical honesty. Naming what’s harming you (without shame) creates the first real choice-point.
•Micro-shifts matter. You don’t have to leap from trauma to abundance you can build safety one small decision at a time.
•Compassion breaks the cycle. Shame keeps patterns looping; self-respect and gentleness create space for change.
•You are allowed to choose. Even when it’s hard, even when it’s messy — your power lives in the present moment.
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A few standout moments (pull quotes)
•“I was going to die if I kept taking it.”
•“The armour isn’t needed anymore — but we keep picking it back up.”
•“You are your safety. You are your rock.”
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Content note / gentle trigger warning
This episode includes discussion of childhood trauma, addiction patterns (including prescribed medication dependence), chronic illness/pain, emotional neglect, and generational trauma. Please take care of yourself while listening — pause, breathe, and come back when you feel resourced. This podcast is not a substitute for therapy or medical support.
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About Dana Grant
Dana Grant is an International Master Life Coach, speaker, bestselling author of The Truth Within the Lie, and host of The Dana Grant Show, sharing heart-centred conversations about healing, self-trust and personal power. danagrant.com

Connect with Dana:
•Website: danagrant.com danagrant.com
•Instagram: @therealdanagrant
•Podcast: The Dana Grant Show

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