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Young men are bombarded with messages pushing them to be more masculine in order to attract women. This creates insecurity, is connected to a wide variety of social ills, and usually doesn't even work. I struggled with this for a long time, here's what I've learned about what really makes someone attractive.

Loved working on this, hope you enjoy it. Big shouts to Joel the video editor.

0:00 Introduction
3:20 Does more masculine = more attractive?
8:48 What traits have we attached to masculinity?
11:39 Hegemonic masculinity
16:00 The intention-behavior gap
19:20 What really makes someone attractive?
21:30 Focus on what you can control
24:59 The two key elements of charisma
27:04 Listen
28:25 Values
30:19 Who's excited to be around you?
32:08 Oh no bears
35:33 Dat body
38:07 So what you're saying is be less masculine?

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