When Shame Blocks Repair

In this solo episode, Dr. Alexandra confronts a common roadblock to repair: shame. Often, in the wake of relational harm, feelings of shame secretly run the show, causing you to get combative and defensive or freeze, flee, or fawn in essential moments. Dr. Alexandra provides strategies for moving from shame into action—so that you can make yourself available for repair—and gives tangible tips for how to make a heartfelt and effective apology.


Relevant links:


Access this episode's companion worksheet here (https://dralexandrasolomon.com/repair)


Reimagining Love episode: "Why Can't I Get Over It?" (https://link.chtbl.com/2SMPsClY)


Dr. Alexandra's e-course: Can I Trust You Again? Rebuilding after Betrayal or Deceit (https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.co...)


Brené Brown's TED Talk: Listening to Shame (   • Listening to shame | Brené Brown | TED  )


Building Self-Esteem: How Learning from Shame Helps Us to Grow (https://bookshop.org/p/books/building...) by Joseph Burgo


Order Dr. Alexandra’s new book, Love Every Day (https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-eve...)


Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter (https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscr...)


Submit a Listener Question (https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274)






Join Dr. Alexandra's five-day retreat with the Modern Elder Academy — Get 10% off with code 'GF10' (https://www.meawisdom.com/enroll)


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