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Most coaches miss this—and it’s costing their clients progress.

If you only listen to your client's story, if you only gather dots without connecting them, you risk forward momentum.

Real transformation comes when you can see the bigger pattern in the moment. One of the most common blind spots for coaches is getting lost in the client’s story. We focus so much on active listening that we forget to step back and see the bigger picture.

The rare skill: keep “one foot on the dance floor” with your client, and “one foot on the balcony” to observe patterns, themes, and dynamics they might not see.

This balance of presence and perspective allows you to interrupt unhelpful narratives, connect the dots, and guide clients toward transformational insights—without losing the flow of the conversation.

You want to balance two conversations at once: fully present with your client AND observing from above

“Dance floor” = client’s story and emotional detail; “balcony” = pattern recognition and big-picture view

Gather dots (details) before trying to connect them

Avoid fueling narratives that keep clients stuck—redirect toward deeper dynamics observed from the balcony

True value comes from offering both listening and perspective in real time

Many coaches pride themselves on active listening—but listening alone isn’t enough. Yes, you need to get on the “dance floor, but also the balcony." This keeps you grounded in your client’s story while also stepping back to observe patterns and themes.

This enables you to gather and connect “dots” without getting lost in the details. You can then interrupt unhelpful narratives gracefully with both presence and perspective in the same conversation.

This skill accelerates transformation for your coaching, consulting, and leadership conversations.

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