honest communication

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Honest communication
I guess that sometimes to communicate honestly what we really need is COURAGE to express ourselves in a manner that is true to our authentic self. Sometimes because we fear to be judged or criticised we hold off from expressing our thoughts and ideas. We fear we might not be accepted by our peers or we fear we might hurt someone's feelings.

Communication can crash down when we fall into these traps. So to communicate truthfully we need to be at ease with who we are.


3 types of Communication

Selfish Communication

I'm always right
I know everything
I over talk and don't let anyone say a word
I never listen
I take advantage of others

Selfless Communication

I'm always wrong
I know nothing
I never speak my mind
I'm never heard
I people please

Empowered Communication:

It's not about being right or wrong but it's about informing the other person how I think and feel.
I enjoy exchanging ideas as I sometimes feel inspired when I listen to others.
I'm balanced in my talking and listening skills.
I listen to myself and I'm able to stay true to myself when I say YES or NO


"Your TRUTH is only TRUE for you"

I believe that sometimes we can assume that our truth is the ultimate truth, but in fact, your truth is only valid for you.
When we express our truth is not about being right or about imposing our believes and opinions but rather it is the expression of our authentic self.
It's like a piece of art. That piece of art is a unique expression of the artist's creativity, and expresses the artists truth of that moment.
A true artist doesn't create worrying about what people will think or if they will like it or not but instead allows the manifestation of what is honest in that moment.
Our Truth is always evolving just because we are also evolving.

For me TRUTH is about AUTHENTIC-SELF-EXPRESSION."


How to create Empowered Communication

Be clear about your needs and wants so you can communicate them with authenticity.
Practise assertiveness by saying NO to what you don't want or need.
Be aware of your values and choose not to compromise them.
Communicate your heart and head equally.
Take responsibility on how you communicate. Be aware of: blaming, denying, projecting, withdrawing, imposing, judging, etc.
Commit yourself to make choices that reflect the person that you are.
Respect and validate your truth as you respect and validate the other's truth even if its opposite to yours.
Focus on negotiation and problem solving.
Honest communication increases emotional safety, trust and deeper connection.
Be aware that we all express love in different ways.


I hope you enjoyed the fourth lesson. Please feel free to send me your comments.



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