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ADHD traits aren't the problem—the lack of relational support is.

In this video, I challenge the dominant narrative that frames ADHD as a fixed disorder. Instead, I explore how ADHD characteristics only become problematic when they develop without adequate relational containment and support during the developmental years.

Many people have ADHD traits but never get diagnosed because they received the relational support they needed to develop clear, loving boundaries with themselves and their environment. When that support is missing, traits like hyperfocus, impulsivity, and hypersensitivity can lead to struggles with addiction, reckless behavior, and overwhelm.

But here's the hopeful truth: people with ADHD traits have incredible potential for creativity, artistic expression, leadership, and empowered action. With the right relational support—even just one solid person who sees them, understands them, and is there 100%—everything can shift.

🕐 TIMESTAMPS
00:00 - ADHD is only a problem once diagnosed
00:39 - Why some people never seek diagnosis
01:00 - The role of relational support and containment
02:10 - What's actually missing: boundaries, not different traits
02:48 - Developing internal containment and self-determination
03:11 - Being porous vs. standing in your "I"
05:00 - ADHD traits within an integrated system
05:25 - Environmental sensitivity needs more support
06:02 - The fabulous potential that can implode
06:47 - Grandiosity and the sense of unfulfilled potential
07:20 - When traits become addiction, recklessness, and overwhelm
09:03 - What shifts the momentum: one solid person

✨ KEY TAKEAWAYS
• ADHD traits are not inherently problematic—they become problems without proper relational support
• People with ADHD characteristics who receive adequate developmental support may never need diagnosis
• The missing piece is relational containment that helps develop clear, loving boundaries
• ADHD personality types tend toward environmental sensitivity and need more attunement
• With the right support, these traits develop into incredible capacities for creativity and leadership
• The gap between potential and reality creates a compounding cycle of low self-esteem
• One person who truly sees, understands, and supports can shift the entire trajectory

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