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Welcome to the SoulLife Psychology Podcast with Dr Toni Reilly.
Dr Toni Reilly introduces intuitive counselling as an everyday relationship skill and explains the difference between advice and counselling: advice removes responsibility, while counselling helps people understand themselves, own their emotions, and make their own choices. She shares personal stories from seeking validation in her first counselling session, to misreading her child’s need for acknowledgement, to recognising her own self-control in Pamela Ray’s intuitive counselling course, to show how “fixing” and analysis can become projection. The episode focuses on listening as a conscious practice: noticing what’s said and what’s underneath it, while also tracking your own reactions, discomfort, and urge to rescue. Reilly outlines how accurate reflection expands awareness and shifts behaviour, and challenges listeners to tolerate emotion without neutralising it.

00:00 Stop Fixing Start Listening
00:58 What Counselling Really Is
02:14 My First Counselling Lesson
03:17 The Skill of Presence
04:35 Projection at Home
05:49 Hear the Pattern Beneath
07:18 My Control Wake Up Call
09:32 Avoid Projecting Ask Instead
11:38 Hold Emotion Don't Neutralise
12:45 Weekly Takeaway and Closing


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