Скачать или смотреть Better Communication: Stop One Upmanship

ANSWER THE EXERCISE IN THE COMMENTS:
1. Think of a time you felt someone was trying to one up you. Why do you think they did that?
2. Think of at least one conversation where sharing your story may have come across as one upmanship.


Better Communication: Stop One Upmanship

Let’s go over a scenario where we’re having a conversation. You got in a crash today, and tell me the details about it. You were getting run off the road and trying to switch lanes but BOOM it pushed you right into another care. As soon I feel like your story is wrapping up, I say something like this I can’t believe that happened to you. I got in a crash just like that last week, but instead of two cars there was three! Blah blah blah…...it was just like yours but way worse.

There’s a good chance the conversation got a little awkward or you felt off-put by my story. But why? I was only trying to relate to you by telling you a similar story. I was trying to show you that we have a shared, similar experience so we could bond over it and deepen our relationship. Why could that potentially hamper the spirit of the conversation?

There are a couple reasons. The first is that you’ve just related an emotional experience and you may not feel done talking about it. If you’ve had a traumatic experience, it’s likely there’s a lot on your mind about it. When I interject my story, you may feel as though I’m trying to move the spotlight away from your experience and towards mine. Even if it’s not a conscious thought, it won’t feel great.

I encourage you to participate and build our community! If you have any questions or topics you'd like me to cover, please let me know. I'd be happy to look in to them for you.

Reflect, Take Action, and Enjoy Life

You can find more content at www.howtohappy.com

Don't forget to subscribe and follow us!
   / howtohappy  
Instagram: www.instagram.com/thehowtohappy
Twitter: @thehowtohappy
Facebook: www.facebook.com/thehowtohappy