Tibetans In Diaspora | Choesang | EP 102 | Stories of Tibetans | Interview 169

My name is Choesang, and I am a Tibetan. This is my story.

I was born two days after my brother, and as I entered the world, he passed away. Not long after, my parents divorced. Due to this upheaval, I never had the chance to attend a proper school. My parents lived in different states, so I was constantly switching between schools depending on whether I was with my mother or my father. The frequent changes disrupted my education, preventing me from receiving a stable and proper education.

Throughout my life, I have faced numerous challenges, most of which were financial. My parents lacked a steady income and savings, leaving me to find my way out of this predicament on my own. But I was often lost, unsure of what steps to take.

I was sent to a monastery and later to the army, but neither path resonated with me. I longed for change. When friends would invite me on adventures, riding their fancy bikes, I would make excuses because I couldn’t afford to keep up with their lifestyle. This often left me spending time alone, contemplating my life.

My life took a turn for the better when I met my wife, Deyang. She is a beautiful, strong, and practical woman. When our first child was born, I came home for a holiday and found her preparing Tsampa (roasted barley flour). She told me we were running out of money and suggested we start selling Tsampa. Initially, I was hesitant and embarrassed, thinking the business was too small for my ego. I didn't help much at first. After roasting 200 kg of Tsampa, we went to the main temple in McLeod Ganj during one of the Dalai Lama’s teachings. I stayed back, looking after our baby, and avoiding the sales. However, when Deyang took a lunch break, I was compelled to sell Tsampa. I wasn’t serious at first, but soon, monks and elderly people swarmed our stall, eager to buy our Tsampa. Their enthusiasm was incredibly encouraging.

That day marked the beginning of our Tsampa business, and it’s a venture I am committed to for life.
To all parents, please consider your actions carefully before deciding to divorce or fight. Children grow and learn by observing their parents. Divorce can have a significant psychological impact on them. So, I urge you to be mindful of how you raise your children.

Interview by Kunsang Tenzing
Video and Edit : Kunsang Tenzing

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