If you’ve ever shut down in an argument or scrambled to defend yourself—then felt awful afterward—you’re not alone. Living with BPD or ADHD (or both) can make it really hard to stay present in relationships. This video explains how empathy gets distorted, why you might feel misunderstood, and how to repair the damage. You’ll learn how ADHD and BPD can amplify shame, impulsivity, and emotional overload—and how to start changing that cycle.
00:00 – Why You Couldn’t Show Up and Didn’t Know Why
00:14 – The Missing Piece: Impaired Empathy
00:30 – Cognitive vs Emotional Empathy
01:10 – When You Feel Too Much (or Not Enough)
01:46 – How ADHD and BPD Affect Empathy
02:41 – Example: You Shut Down, But It’s Not Because You Don’t Care
03:35 – Invalidation Isn’t Always Intentional
04:44 – How BPD Shifts the Focus to Shame
05:25 – That Shame-Defensiveness Loop
06:44 – Misinterpreting Your Partner’s Needs
08:25 – “You’re Not Cold, You’re Protecting Yourself”
09:19 – When Past Hurt Shapes Present Empathy
10:15 – Splitting, Projection, and Emotional Overload
11:06 – Validation Scripts That Actually Help
12:08 – What to Say When You Feel Defensive
12:58 – You’re Not Broken — You’ve Been in Survival Mode
13:47 – Recap and Call to Share the Video
This video explores how impaired empathy, particularly in those with BPD, can destabilize relationships. Learn why you might struggle to emotionally show up for those you care about, creating uncertainty and disconnection. This might be the missing piece to building healthy relationships.
𝐀𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐃𝐫. 𝐃𝐚𝐧𝐢𝐞𝐥 𝐉. 𝐅𝐨𝐱 📚
Daniel J. Fox, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist in Texas, international speaker, and a multi-award-winning author. He has been specializing in the treatment and assessment of individuals with personality disorders for over 20 years in the state and federal prison system, universities, and in private practice. His specialty areas include personality disorders, ethics, burnout prevention, and emotional intelligence.
𝐂𝐡𝐞𝐜𝐤 𝐎𝐮𝐭 𝐃𝐫. 𝐅𝐨𝐱’𝐬 𝐎𝐧𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐞 𝐂𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞 🎓
BPD Course: Learn more at www.bpdcourse.com
𝐃𝐫. 𝐅𝐨𝐱’𝐬 𝐏𝐮𝐛𝐥𝐢𝐬𝐡𝐞𝐝 𝐁𝐨𝐨𝐤𝐬 📘
Dr. Fox has published several articles and books in the areas of personality disorders, emotional intelligence, and treatment strategies. Below are some of his key works:
▶ BPD Guided Journal: Your Space to Release Intense Emotions, Nurture Self-Compassion, and Take Charge of Borderline Personality Disorder.
Available at:
https://shorturl.at/Ta5Dj
▶ The BPD Card Deck: 50 Ways to Balance Emotions and Live Well with Borderline Personality Disorder.
Available at:
www.shorturl.at/jBHJV
▶ Complex Borderline Personality Disorder: How Coexisting Conditions Affect Your BPD and How You Can Gain Emotional Balance.
Available at:
https://rb.gy/hdyqyy
▶ Antisocial, Narcissistic, and Borderline Personality Disorders: A New Conceptualization of Development, Reinforcement, Expression, and Treatment.
Available at:
https://tinyurl.com/2anv8dww
▶ The Borderline Personality Disorder Workbook: An Integrative Program to Understand and Manage Your BPD.
Available at:
https://goo.gl/LQEgy1
▶ Antisocial, Borderline, Narcissistic and Histrionic Workbook: Treatment Strategies for Cluster B Personality Disorders (IPBA Benjamin Franklin Gold Award Winner).
Available at:
https://goo.gl/BLRkFy
▶ Narcissistic Personality Disorder Toolbox: 55 Practical Treatment Techniques for Clients, Their Parents & Their Children (IPBA Benjamin Franklin Silver Award Winner).
Available at:
https://goo.gl/sZYhym
𝐃𝐫. 𝐅𝐨𝐱'𝐬 𝐖𝐨𝐫𝐤 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐄𝐱𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐭𝐢𝐬𝐞 💼
Dr. Fox has given numerous workshops and seminars on ethics and personality disorders, personality disorders and crime, treatment solutions for treating clients along the antisocial, borderline, narcissistic, and histrionic personality spectrum, emotional intelligence, managing mental health within the prison system, and others. Dr. Fox maintains a website of various treatment interventions focused on working with and attenuating the symptomatology related to individuals along the antisocial, borderline, narcissistic, and histrionic personality spectrum (www.drdfox.com).
𝐂𝐨𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐜𝐭 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐃𝐫. 𝐃𝐚𝐧𝐢𝐞𝐥 𝐅𝐨𝐱 🌍
👉 YouTube: / @drdanielfox
👉 Website: http://www.drdfox.com/
👉 Blog: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/bl...
👉 Facebook: / appliedpsychservices
👉 Twitter: / drdanieljfox1
👉 LinkedIn: / drdfox
👉 Instagram: / drdfox
👉 Amazon Author’s Page: amazon.com/author/drfox
Thank you for watching: ADHD vs BPD: Why Relationships Feel So Hard and How to Heal | Dr. Daniel Fox
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