This is why you get hooked on people that send mixed messages and act like turds.

Humans love drama. We’re magnetized to toxic and dramatic relationships. It makes hooking up super hot because who knows how long it’s going to last. The mystery and the unpredictability is a big turn on for the psyche.

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We’re always left wanting more when we get intermittent reinforcement. We use intermittent reinforcement to train dogs to always be at our beck and call and the same thing is operating when someone you’re attracted to is always giving you mixed messages.

But the most messed up part of this, is what happens when we finally break the cycle of dating turds and find someone who is consistent, secure, safe and predictable.

It’s such a relief at first. But as soon as the honeymoon period ends and all your left with is your nice safe and secure partner…it’s just not that hot.

Being with a stable person who you don’t have to worry about is not a turn on. We are psychologically turned off and don’t want to rip the clothes off of a partner that is just really good at being there for you.