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In active addiction, the core issue is selfishness, driven by behaviors rooted in childhood trauma, distorted thoughts, and perceptions. Everything becomes transactional, with no capacity for selfless compromise or meeting others’ needs without expecting something in return. This makes genuine love impossible until they recover. Families often hope love—whether from themselves, children, or other factors—will fix the addiction, but this is a misconception. The loved one’s inability to stop, despite these motivators, stems from their need to prioritize themselves and blame others for their problems. Recovery requires letting go of resentments, expectations, and a self-centered worldview, learning to act without ulterior motives. Even seemingly “nice” behaviors in addiction are often manipulative, driven by people-pleasing or hidden expectations. Unconditional love, which is non-transactional, only becomes possible when the individual addresses their core issues through sobriety and behavioral change, not through external pressures like relationships or jobs.

Family First Intervention provides intervention and resources for families of loved ones experiencing a dual diagnosis, substance use, and mental health disorders. For more information, please check out our website https://family-intervention.com.