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OVERSHARING: When Trauma Mistakes Exposure for Connection

Oversharing is not a flaw.
It’s a survival strategy.

For many trauma survivors, the nervous system confuses emotional exposure with emotional safety. Sharing deeply and too quickly can feel like connection, but often leaves behind shame, regret, or a sense of being emotionally naked.

In this video, we explore:

Why trauma pushes people toward rapid emotional disclosure

How oversharing creates a false sense of intimacy

The difference between connection and emotional exposure

Why oversharing often leads to shame, withdrawal, or further hurt

How childhood emotional neglect and unsafe attachment shape this pattern

How to build boundaries without silencing your truth

If you grew up having to explain your pain to be seen, believed, or protected,
this video will help you understand where oversharing comes from and how to move toward safe, regulated connection instead.

Healing doesn’t mean becoming guarded. It means learning when, how, and with whom to share.

RESOURCES — Oversharing in Narcissistic Families

Harvard Center on the Developing Child. Topics: Toxic stress, emotional safety, attachment, boundary development. Key relevance: How chronic emotional stress disrupts self-regulation and boundaries in children
https://developingchild.harvard.edu

Trauma & Nervous System

Bessel van der Kolk, MD / The Body Keeps the Score/Explains how trauma impairs internal boundaries and creates compulsive self-disclosure as a regulation strategy

Stephen Porges, PhD /Polyvagal Theory/Oversharing as a safety-seeking nervous system response

Attachment Theory / John Bowlby/Attachment and Loss (Vol. 1–3)

Mary Ainsworth/ Anxious and disorganized attachment patterns/Oversharing as proximity-seeking behavior

Complex Trauma/Pete Walker, MFT/Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving ntroduces the Fawn Response, strongly linked to oversharing and over-explaining

Family Systems & Enmeshment

Murray Bowen/Family Systems Theory/Concepts: Enmeshment, poor differentiation of self, boundary collapse

Salvador Minuchin/Structural Family Therapy/Enmeshed families and lack of psychological privacy
Narcissistic Family Dynamics

Dr. Ramani Durvasula/Narcissistic family systems, emotional exploitation, information as control

Karyl McBride, PhD/ Will I Ever Be Good Enough/Parentification, emotional exposure, and loyalty conditioning