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Love triangles are not random. In this video, psychologist Anna explains infidelity through Bert Hellinger’s systemic family therapy and reveals the hidden laws that shape relationship dynamics.

You will learn why cheating can function as a stabilizer in a family system and what unmet needs keep love triangles alive.

Systemic Family Therapy, developed by Bert Hellinger, views the family as a single living system governed by hidden laws — order, connection, and balance.
When these laws are violated, the system unconsciously seeks ways to stabilize itself.

In this video, we explore:

How Hellinger’s systemic laws apply to love triangles

Why infidelity can act as a dysfunctional stabilizer

The difference between functional and dysfunctional stabilizers in families

How unmet needs create space for a third person

Why fear of intimacy often fuels repeated affairs

Why confrontation and reconciliation cycles repeat endlessly

Infidelity is usually experienced as betrayal, trauma, and pain.
But from a systemic perspective, it can paradoxically help preserve the family — at least temporarily.

Love triangles often form when:

Emotional or sexual needs are unmet

Conflicts remain unresolved for years

Partners lack tools for healthy communication

Intimacy feels threatening or overwhelming

Instead of focusing on blame, systemic therapy asks deeper questions:

What role does infidelity play in this family system?

What problem has remained unaddressed for too long?

What need is being met in a distorted way?

Removing a stabilizer without addressing the underlying issue can cause the system to collapse.
That is why real change begins with awareness, responsibility, and communication.

Want to learn how to express needs and anger without destroying relationships?
In my book The Simple Formula for Communication, I explain how to build healthy dialogue and emotional clarity.

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