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SUMMARY
In this conversation, I dive into the complexities of limerence and romantic love, looking at how Fairbairn’s object relations theory and Tennov’s research help us understand them better. I talk about the difference between the two, with limerence being more of an obsessive, one-sided experience, while romantic love can grow into something more mutual and stable over time. We also explore the role of idealization, attachments in early infancy and the schizoid feature that comes with both types of love, all with the goal of understanding these dynamics for healthier, more balanced relationships.

A VERSION WITH NO MUSIC:    • (No BG music) Analyzing “The Falling in Lo...  

BOTTOMLINE
I think of limerence as a way that we attach our longing onto

MAIN POINTS OF ANALYSIS
1. Reciprocity and Uncertainty
2. Emotional Distancing and Schizoid Development
3. Familiarity and Emotional Resonance
4. Idealization and Crystallization

LEARN MORE HERE (VIDEO LINKS)
-Fantasies (object relations):    • Idealization in Limerence: A Double-Edged ...  
-Limerence for self-expansion:    • Treat Limerence as a Catalyst (psychoanaly...  

CHAPTERS
00:00 - Trailer
00:45 - Introduction and Disclaimer
01:28 - Theoretical Frameworks
02:06 - Behavioral and Emotional Characteristics from Original Research
02:27 - Background on Theories
04:20 - Libidinal Development (Divergence from Freud)
05:27 - Psychobabble intro (Fairbairn’s hysterical technique, idealization, familarity, emotional schizoid features, splitting etc.)
06:24 - More on “Love and Limerence” research (Dorothy Tennov)
09:32 - (ON FANTASIES LINK VIDEO)
09:36 - RECIPROCITY AND UNCERTAINTY
11: 29 - seeing signs they like you
13:50 - Model- “Primary Trauma”
15:00 - Model- Splitting, creating “manageable” objects, ambivalent relationships, etc.
15:39 - Model - Experience of “Intense emotional craving,” exciting object; relating to the fantasy version
17:29 - EMOTIONAL DISTANCING AND SCHIZOID DEVELOPMENT
19:09 - FAMILIARITY AND EMOTIONAL RESONANCE
19:48 - Imago Therapy
22:59 - IDEALIZATION AND CRYSTALLIZATION
23:30 - Stendhal’s stages of romantic development
29:12 - Closing thoughts

LINK
Ronald Fairbairn: The Dynamic Structure of the Self (Models)
https://www.semanticscholar.org/paper...

Object Relations Chapter 3 (1997, Fairbrain):
https://tcf-website-media-library.s3....

On Being in Love by Dorothy Tennov
https://www.thriftbooks.com/w/love-an...

Attachment Theory
https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2021-0...

Imago Theory
https://harvilleandhelen.com/initiati...


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