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In this video, Mark B. Baer, Esq. explains why parents should really consider the values legacy they want to leave their children and grandchildren before they decide how they want to divorce or end their romantic relationship.

Like it or not, if there are children of the relationship (regardless of their age), the family still exists after the relationship ends. The manner in which you end a relationship determines whether your family will be functional or dysfunctional from that day forward.

The traditional manner of divorcing is adversarial. Since nobody "plays" to lose or tie, both parents are "playing" to win. Since a family is involved, they create a win/lose or lose/lose dynamic that will create a tug-of-war the continues until one of them eventually dies. In so doing, upon the death of the first parent, the children and grandchildren (if any) experience grief and relief at the exact same time. Children should never experience both of those emotions at the same time.

I highly recommend that parents consider mediating their divorce. Mediation is conflict intervention. Through the help of the mediator, parents rebuild trust and de-escalate the level of conflict in order to reach agreements.

What values legacy do you want to leave your children?

Mark Baer's Bio:

As a former litigator who advocates the use of mediation and collaborative law whenever possible, Attorney Mark Baer points out the inherent flaws that exist in litigating Family Law matters then reveals more creative and less destructive approaches to help family members work through difficult break ups. Utilizing his vast array of information and knowledge, well beyond the law itself, Mr. Baer provides insight on how the dissolution of familial relationships, as typically practiced, leads to less-than-optimal results, both financially and emotionally. He also highlights the difference between 'dispute resolution' and 'conflict resolution' to offer simple ways of achieving a better result for all parties involved including the children.

Mr. Baer was recognized as Southern California Super Lawyer in the Family Law category from 2012 2015. He was included among The National Advocates Top 100 Lawyers since 2014, selected for The Official Best of Los Angeles Award 2014 in the category of Mediation and was recently named a member of the Nation’s Top One Percent list for 2015 by the National Association of Distinguished Counsel (NADC), an organization dedicated to promoting the highest standards of legal excellence, and crowned “Most Compassionate Family Mediation – California” by Corporate America Legal Elite of 2015.

As a speaker, Mr. Baer presented at the California Psychological Association (CPA) Convention in 2012 and 2013. On April 19, 2013, he was a panelist at the American Bar Association's Section of Family Law 2013 Spring CLE Conference in Anchorage, Alaska. The presentation was entitled, "Navigating the Emotional Currents of Collaborative Law." Mark was also selected to author a chapter for "Inside the Minds: Strategies for Family Law in California, 2013 ed.", published by Thomson Reuters (published on July 1, 2013). His article, “The Perfect Storm: Lawyer Limitation and the Adversarial Model in Family Law,” published in the American Journal of Family Law, Winter 2014” is now utilized at the Strauss Institute for Dispute Resolution at Pepperdine School of Law. The Strauss Institute has been ranked #1 in the nation by U.S. News and World Report for the 11th year.