I Gifted My Step-Daughter A House, But She Uninvited Me From Her Wedding. Now....- Reddit Family

I Gifted My Step-Daughter A House, But She Uninvited Me From Her Wedding. Now....- Reddit Family
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I Gifted My Step-Daughter A House, But She Uninvited Me From Her Wedding. Now I’m Taking Back Everything I Gave.
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The original poster (OP), a 62-year-old man, shares his painful story about his relationship with his 25-year-old stepdaughter, Lily, and the devastating fallout after she uninvited him from her wedding. OP has been married to Sarah, Lily's mother, for 15 years, and since marrying Sarah, he has acted as a father figure to Lily. He supported her emotionally and financially, paying for her college and even gifting her and her fiancé, Mike, a house as a pre-wedding gift. OP assumed their relationship was close and that Lily viewed him as a father.

However, when the wedding invitations arrived, OP was shocked to learn that he was not invited. He initially thought it was a mistake, but when he tried to contact Lily, she ignored his calls. OP turned to his wife, Sarah, for answers, and was stunned to learn that Lily had reconnected with her biological father, Tom, and wanted him to walk her down the aisle instead of OP. Tom had abandoned Lily and Sarah when Lily was two and had a history of disappointing them. OP, who had been there for Lily throughout her life, was deeply hurt by her decision to replace him with a man who had never been there for her.

Feeling betrayed, OP struggled with the idea of attending the wedding or even continuing to support Lily. He wondered if he should take back the house he had gifted her, not out of financial concern, but out of principle. After many years of being the father figure in Lily's life, he felt deeply unappreciated and discarded. He ultimately decided to confront Lily, but she continued to avoid him, which only heightened his frustration.

In an emotional meeting at a coffee shop, Lily explained that she wanted to give her biological father, Tom, a second chance. She admitted that she still valued OP's role in her life but wanted Tom to walk her down the aisle. When OP reminded her of all the times Tom had let her down and the sacrifices he made for her, Lily insisted that Tom had changed and was even contributing to the wedding expenses. This revelation was the last straw for OP. He told Lily that if Tom wanted to step into the role of father, he should take full responsibility, and OP would be withdrawing financial support for the wedding and taking back the house.

This decision deeply upset Lily, who hadn’t anticipated such a reaction. Despite her attempt to backtrack and express that she still wanted OP in her life, OP felt the damage had already been done. He left the coffee shop, devastated, but determined to protect himself emotionally. OP reflected on all the moments he had been there for Lily—teaching her to drive, paying for her braces, and being there for every important milestone in her life. He struggled to understand how she could now choose her biological father over him after years of his love and support.

Over the next six months, OP proceeded to legally take back the house and cut off contact with Lily. Sarah, caught between her daughter and OP, ultimately left to stay with Lily during the wedding preparations. Tom walked Lily down the aisle, and OP heard about the wedding through mutual friends, though he wasn’t there. During this difficult time, OP focused on his work and isolated himself from family.

Eventually, Sarah called OP, revealing that Tom had disappeared from Lily's life once again, just months after the wedding. Lily was devastated, realizing she had made a terrible mistake by trusting him. Sarah expressed regret on behalf of both herself and Lily, but OP remained hurt and unsure if he could reconcile with them.
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