Скачать или смотреть The Neurobiology of Love: Understanding Your Nervous System in Relationships

Why do some relationships feel like a constant struggle for safety while others reach that deep "I know you now" phase of secure love? The answer lies in your autonomic nervous system and the early attachment templates that govern how you react to intimacy.In this video, we break down the science of love to help you recognise when your nervous system is "coping" using old survival strategies versus when it is truly "not coping" and stuck in a threat response.

What You Will Learn:

1. The "Not Coping" State (Threat & Cortical Inhibition) When you feel threatened in a relationship, your amygdala triggers the "fight-or-flight" response. This causes jagged and irregular heart rhythms, which send "noise" to the brain, resulting in cortical inhibition. In this state, your "primitive brain" takes over, making it impossible to listen deeply, focus, or make clear decisions with your partner.

2. Recognising Your "Coping" Strategies We explore Attachment Theory and how infants adapt their behaviour to get the best care.
• Anxious Attachment (The Pursuer) Learning to amplify feelings to get attention.
• Avoidant Attachment (The Withdrawer) Learning to keep feelings "under wraps" to stay safe.
• The Unhappy Dance. How these styles trigger each other in a loop of pursuit and retreat.

3. The Chemicals of Connection Understand the role of neurotransmitters and hormones in bonding. From the initial "high" of dopamine and cortisol to the long-term stability provided by oxytocin and vasopressin. Discover why men often require commitment to lower testosterone and allow bonding hormones to work, while women may experience an oxytocin "skyrocket" during physical intimacy.

4. How to Move Forward: Tools for Coherence To reach the "best part" of a relationship, you must learn to move from survival to heart coherence. We discuss

• The Physiological Sigh: A specific breathing technique to shift your autonomic seesaw from alert to calm.
• Slowing Down for the Bump: How to interrupt the fight-flight mechanism using a slow out-breath.
• Positive Delusions: Why believing your partner is uniquely valuable is a hallmark of stable attachment.

Key Highlights:

• How childhood templates are repurposed for adult romantic attachments.
• The impact of contempt as the "sulfuric acid" of relationships.
• How vulnerability acts as the heartbeat of all intimate connections.
• The power of neural plasticity to rewire your brain for secure love.Subscribe to join our journey through the corridors of neuroscience and learn how to foster a relationship built on interdependence, curiosity, and secure attachment.


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