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"I don't know when I'm getting overwhelmed. Even if I do know it, I'm not managing it so well." - Dr. Tian Dayton

Many adults struggle with patterns they can't explain: feeling responsible for everything, working harder than everyone else without realizing it, or getting triggered by chaos even when their current life is stable. They might find intimacy difficult, feel disconnected from their emotions, or notice their nervous system going into overdrive in situations that don't seem threatening.

What they don't realize is that these patterns often trace back to growing up in chaotic environments where they had to become the adult in the room as a child. The truth is, when children are forced to take on adult responsibilities - managing emotions, solving problems, or keeping the family together - it rewires their nervous system in ways that show up decades later as chronic overwhelm, relationship difficulties, and an inability to recognize their own limits.

In this episode, Dr. Tian Dayton joins Dr. Aimie to explore how early relational trauma and chaotic family dynamics create lasting patterns in our nervous system. You'll discover why traditional talk therapy often isn't enough for trauma resolution, how movement and body-based approaches can complete what words cannot, and why environments like 12-step programs can create the perfect container for nervous system healing.

You'll hear about:
[2:00] The hidden signs of early relational trauma and why chaos is so hard to identify
[5:30] How children adapt to become "project managers" in dysfunctional families
[8:00] Why some people feel like the "crazy one" while others become the "uptight one"
[9:00] Understanding "thwarted intention" and how it creates emotional blocks in adulthood
[12:00] How sense memory gets triggered in relationships and intimacy
[14:00] The critical importance of early touch and bonding for nervous system development
[18:00] When nervous systems "freeze" and brace for danger with intimate partners
[21:00] Why 12-step programs create ideal conditions for trauma healing
[27:30] The power of "limbic baths" and co-regulated nervous system states
[32:00] How "act hunger" and movement help complete unresolved trauma responses
[35:00] Why the body needs catharsis and energy release for true healing
Whether you're recognizing your own patterns from a chaotic childhood, supporting someone who grew up in dysfunction, or you're a practitioner working with clients who have early relational trauma, this episode provides both the understanding and practical approaches needed to break generational cycles and create lasting healing.

Dr. Tian Dayton is a leading expert in psychodrama therapy have developed her approach of Relational Trauma Repair and is the author of numerous books on trauma, addiction, and family dynamics.

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