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The second video in a series of four.
Toxic Mothers and the Damage to Their Sons explores in-depth how emotionally immature or abusive mothers impact their sons long into adulthood.

Recovery Journal Prompts:

Question 1) When I’m triggered by women in general or by my partner (again it doesn’t have to be a female to male only triggering situation) what does the situation take you back to.

Does it take you back to:
· Not being protected or seen?
· Having to navigate weaponized moods - or being powerless?
· Used in some way that feels icky?
· Being thoughtless, oblivious, insensitive

Thought exercises like that can help you regulate in the moment as our inner child is looking at the present through the lens of our past and reacting.
Try to be specific in thinking of events like : when I graduated from my master’s program and my family visited and my mother had a weekend long meltdown and ended up not coming to my ceremony and hitting my sister.
How is the present situation you’re triggered in different? How are you different in terms of having power and or choice?
It helps in the moment to get out of triggers and in childhood trauma work we do have to separate past vs present to regulate and have our inner adult more in place.

Question 2) In your projection, who does the person become to you in those moments?

Try to think about or write about how the person that you might be projecting on – who qualities trigger you.
Like a boss who is female and doesn’t take action on people and you have to make up for their work, can trigger you to be a tragic codependent where they don’t protect.
How are they different (can simply be, you’re not my mother - you’re just and ineffective boss), how are you different? (I’m not trapped and have choice now or can speak up)
We can also project in situations like being at a restaurant and you see an family having to deal with an extremely dramatic and difficult woman and you might feel a focus on wanting to protect that family from their mother.
I’m not saying we shouldn’t have any feelings about a situation like that but what does your inner child want to do?

Question 3) Write out an inventory of women in your entire life who specifically triggered you - from teachers, partners, bosses, strangers in coffee shops – was there a pattern to them?

Did they have similar qualities like using mood as a weapon, some kind of immaturity, aloofness, some kind of irresponsibility, some kind of selfishness or entitlement?

You could do it in columns, person, behavior and how they made you feel: enraged, in trouble, or powerless.

Are there patterns to how your inner child gets affected by women specifically and are you aware of those patterns related to your mother? That’s our unfinished business with an abusive parent while we are trying to navigate the present.

Question 4) Lastly, as a toxic mother’s son, what does your inner child try to get from women in a way that’s coming from unfinished trauma business with your mother.

Does your inner child want to be seen and tries to prove something to women?
Does your inner child want care and validations but trying to get it is coming from a place of trauma? Like wanting them to read your mind.
Does your inner child want to point out someone's manipulative drama or that they are misguided or thoughtless? Do you have an agenda instead of just letting someone be an A hole in the world? Do you fight with women online or look for hypocrisy in their posts/comments?

Does your inner want to be a woman’s total unconditional love source in order to feel complete? It might be a sign that we are looking for a parent and not a partner. We all want a deep love with our partner but a toxic mother clouds that.

If you get stuck, go back and watch the types of mother and the impact on son because the video is about some healing steps.

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