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⚠️ Content note: This video discusses trauma, sexual violence, and suicide attempts. Viewer discretion advised.

This conversation at the Kaleidoscope Salon in London between Markus van Alphen and Sandhya Sabapathy, explores the role of shame, trauma, and compassion—from survivors of sexual violence to victims of toxic work environments, and even to those who perpetrate harm.

A survivor shares how shame contributed to years of suffering, and why reframing shame through compassion has been central to healing. From there, the discussion expands into systems thinking, restorative justice, and why purely punitive approaches often fail to create real change.

Key themes include:
🏷️ Why shame often leads to isolation rather than accountability
🏷️ Trauma, blame, and the long road to self-compassion
🏷️ Toxic workplaces and why victims are never “to blame”
🏷️ How systems seek homeostasis—and why punishment reinforces harm
🏷️ Restorative approaches to justice and responsibility

This video invites us to rethink how society deals with trauma, wrongdoing, and healing—moving from blame and punishment toward connection, responsibility, and restoration.

⏱️ Chapters
00:00 – A Survivor Speaks: Shame & Trauma
00:12 – When Shame Becomes Harmful
00:35 – Compassion as a Path to Healing
00:58 – Transforming Shame Without Blame
01:22 – Victims Are Not to Blame
01:43 – Toxic Work Environments & Self-Blame
02:05 – Realising You’re in a Toxic System
02:46 – Why Redefining Shame Matters
03:18 – Belonging, Disconnection & Trauma
03:55 – Reconnecting Trauma Survivors to Society
04:29 – What About Perpetrators?
04:55 – Punishment, Profit & Systems Thinking
05:36 – Why Punitive Justice Fails
06:15 – Restorative Justice Explained
06:54 – “Burning Bridges” Documentary
07:28 – Facing the Demons: A Restorative Case Study
08:10 – Final Reflections on Accountability & Healing

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