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Many people say, “My childhood was normal. Good home. Good parents.” And yet, when you were sad, scared, or overwhelmed, you were alone.

Trauma is not only about abuse or violence. It is also what didn’t happen. If no one helped you calm down, if no one sat with you when you were distressed, if you had to “handle it yourself” too early, your nervous system learned survival, not safety.

Emotional regulation is not a skill we are born with.
It is learned through co-regulation, a calm, available adult helping a child feel safe.

When that care is missing, the nervous system stays on alert, emotions feel overwhelming, and relationships feel confusing, unsafe, or distant.

As adults, this shows up as anxiety, emotional numbness, people-pleasing, overthinking, or difficulty trusting closeness.

Healing happens in safe relationships, where your nervous system learns "I am seen. I am allowed to feel. I am not alone."

Trauma-informed therapy helps rebuild this capacity slowly, gently, relationally.

Your reactions are not flaws. They are learned responses from a nervous system that adapted.