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Join me in this conversation with Jon K. Uhler, Clinical Psychological Counselor specializing in the area of trauma, sexual abuse, & corrective counseling with sex offenders.

Jon takes us through some realizations of a predator's mind and the meaning behind behaviours. In part 2, we’ll explore more specifically, what the content in some of the books in our public schools leads to, why it’s harmful and not helpful.
Some major takeaway points to ponder are:
“Grooming simply means making someone else turn down the volume of their own intuition.”

Questions:
What happens then when children are being taught that their intuition and instinct are inaccurate (or wrong)? That it’s okay if you’re not feeling ‘safe’– that this is simply fear placed there by society?
What happens when we tell children that they only ‘feel’ like a ‘boy’ or a ‘girl’ because society has constructed that –that you are something ‘in-between’?
What happens when adults are being groomed to dumb down their intuition and instinct – to be told what’s wrong and right?
“Teachers are considered mandatory reporters –Trustees on School boards are considered to be mandatory reporters. Their first & primary responsibility of mandatory reporting is keeping the children safe”
Questions:
What happens then when they have been groomed to not trust their instinct?
What happens when the definition of ‘safety’ has been diluted?
Would they recognize grooming material? Would they recognize it as helpful or harmful?

Jon talks about how predators will gain access to kids by first working on the adults. That they will test the resolve and discernment of adults long before accessing kids. If the protective adults have their own intuition and instinct diminished – then the door is wide open for access.
Question:
How does that sit with you? Is it something to consider? To take seriously? Or shall we dismiss this? I suppose anyone, who would consider themselves in a position to protect children, gets to make that decision for themselves. Remember: you make that decision for yourself and your kids – no one else. Not the government, not the school board, not your teachers. *You*.

Jon mentions “What kind of self-esteem does someone need to have in order to believe that they know better than the parents?”
We know, that a child’s ‘job’ in the pre-teen/adolescent period will be to become independent of their parents. To test boundaries, defy them, as to make their own rules. The goal is that this is accomplished while still making wise decisions, and at the very least, staying safe. Is it helpful or harmful to amplify the false narrative that ‘your parents don’t understand’?

Jon makes mention of language and meaning being lost. This impacts the ability to make informed decisions. If surgery is right for someone – if it’s the best option – then one would need to arrive at such a conclusion, despite the plethora of risks associated with said surgery/procedure.
We need to start using the correct meaning of any disingenuous language.

What are some reasons why a born female would prefer to be a male or a male to be a female? Are we having those conversations before 'affirming'?
When would we ever tell someone that who they are isn’t the ‘real’ them?
Jon explains, any other time, we would work to build self-esteem: “you do that by building their competencies – not fill their mind with inadequacies and tell them how they will be helped is by ‘eradicating yourself and morph into something that you’re not that needs to be maintained by big pharma!’
Question: How does that sit with you? Is it off-base or valid?

I found it important to appreciate that one does not need to be a convicted predator or pedophile to be behaving as such (ie. Just because one has not been caught does not mean it’s not happening). Yet a practicing teacher in Ontario stated to me “Convicted pedophiles” should not be teaching. I offered time to think about that statement. He stood by his message. So then, only those who have been caught sexually abusing kids should not be teaching? Why do we have the bar so low? How are we okay to have the bar so low, when it comes to the safety of our kids?
“Protective parents raise the bar when it comes to protecting our children” – is a powerful reminder.

Are we willing to take a look at the impact that material like this has on our kids? And critically thinking about the grooming that is happening (ie. diminishing instinctual response of both children and adults?).
Is that not what’s happening? Are we willing to have a courageous conversation about it?

Part 2 will go through particular books and the psychological impacts it has on our children.

Thanks for being here.
I hope you can take these perspectives and go off and have your very own courageous conversations.