Is It Possible To Find Your Soulmate At Retreats? | Facebook Walk With Reid

Hello Facebook! It is Reid Mihalko from http://reidaboutsex.com/ and it's our time for our walk and I'm late today because I was super busy getting a bunch of stuff ready for sex geek summer camp which is coming up in less than 30 days. And I'm actually going to take you on a walk in the other direction from where I usually go because I want to show you these cool murals and I just want to do something new. So there are some cool murals and today I want to talk about because I just got home, as you sign on and say hi, where are you signing in from? I see Sunny Megatron from Chicago. Although Sunny could be at large somewhere in the world. I never know. Hi Sunny! Say hello to Ken for me.

Okay. So I just got back from a bunch of retreats and oh! You know what? Maybe tomorrow I’ll take you for a walk on the train tracks. There’s the trains…look here. We can sneak on to the train tracks and try not to get hit. I’m distracted but now I’m focused. I just got back from a bunch of retreats, teaching in a bunch of retreats and there are some things really interesting when you go to experience like a deep dive kind of a festival or a weekend workshop or you know like something more than two hours long where you're like really doing deep work - maybe super vulnerable work, maybe having like these huge ecstatic experiences because you've never maybe you've never given yourself permission to go to a big powerful retreat. So it might be your first time and you don't know what that's like and so you surprise yourself with your vulnerability and the awesomeness that that you know of you like challenging yourself to grow and to be vulnerable and then during this really deep work, you meet somebody who's also doing the deep work, who's challenging himself, who's being vulnerable and you're doing all these….these intimacy exercises and things like that and you're really like connecting with people and you're being brave and courageous. It's scary but it's rewarding and then all of a sudden, you you're connecting with people really…really deeply for several days at a time and you know at some of these retreats or festivals maybe it's appropriate and you have sex with somebody or you just bond with them really deeply spiritually and then all of a sudden you're having this experience of you knowing this person. It's like they're your soulmate and you're just like re-anchoring these deep brave experiences….I get I can get a little noisy because it's kind of by the highway but there’s this cool mural I want to show you.

So there's you know you're like the next day you're vulnerable, you're connecting, your souls are….are touching, you're having these ecstatic human experiences but then maybe that night you guys have crazy amazing sex. Maybe it's a sex you know tantra kind of a thing and you’re practicing are the skill sets and you’re…you're dumping all these oxytocin and these endorphins and you'd be courageous and brave and somebody's really seeing you because they're connecting and….and practicing being present and you're just like “oh my god, I've never felt this way before. Like this is amazing. This is so deep. I feel like I've known you my whole life, maybe past lives. I think we're soul mates.” And then you go home and you feel really sad because the event ended and you're missing that person that you connected with, and you fell in love with and bonded with and touch souls with and then the next weekend, you rent a U-Haul and you drive cross-country with all your stuff and you move in together and it's all because you feel like you've known this person in your entire life. And I'm here to tell you, it's not that I don't believe in soul mates, I'm just saying as somebody who coaches a lot of people in relationships where they met at Burning Man which is coming up soon or at some retreat but maybe just maybe this person that is your soul mate, that you feel like you've known your entire life is because they remind you of your parents and that's why you know them because they have patterns or things that your parents have and that is why you've known them your whole life because they are basically a stand-in for your parental issues and you're trying to do a redo with them. You want to get it right this time and that's why you feel like you've known them your whole life. And I’m just saying, this is my opinion. I’m not a therapist nor do I play on the television or the internet but I think your parental issues are best dealt with….with your parents if they're still alive and if they're not, in a workshop and maybe in a therapy across the board, go take a family constellation workshop, go take…go get some therapy like professional listeners. I’m a big proponent of professional listeners and work on completing whatever unresolved family stuff you might have for yourself and….and then see if that person from the retreat is still alluring to you, if they're still your soul mate.