Скачать или смотреть STORYTIME: How I Developed LIMERENCE for a NARCISSIST & Began Healing (Inspired by Gabor Maté)

The inspiration came from a lecture I attended this weekend by Dr. Gabor Maté. He reminds us that “trauma is the disconnection from the self,” and that healing is about reclaiming the freedom to be ourselves—free from the survival-based patterns of childhood that pull us away from authenticity.

My own experience with limerence forced me to revisit trauma bonds and confront my struggles with setting boundaries. This video isn’t about calling anyone out. It’s about speaking my truth and practicing vulnerability.
Coming out of Dr. Maté’s lecture, I felt triggered, inspired, and deeply moved. I had been holding back from sharing this story out of fear—fear of revealing my anger, my pain—but I’m learning to honor those emotions instead of hiding them.

To my subscribers: thank you. You've helped me see that it’s okay to be vulnerable.

My experience with limerence may not look like yours—they take many forms. But I believe limerence can be a powerful force for growth. And there is wisdom buried in our trauma.

#complexPTSD #limerence #traumabonds #traumarecovery #codependency #coda #storytime

CHAPTERS
00:00 - INTRO: Practicing vulnerability by sharing my REAL story on Limerence
01:34 - INTRO: “Confusing emotional intensity for intimacy.”
01:57 - Disclaimer + Please be kind.
03:00 - STORY TIME Begins HERE
04:27 - The impact of limerence on my relationship
05:00 - My struggles with setting personal boundaries
06:35 - Limerence fantasy bond
07:40 - The SECRETS Began - “I felt chosen”
08:33 - CHILDHOOD IMPRINTS: Parentification// other people’s emotions + needs are more important than mine
10:06 - Limerent distortions: LO is good, my partner is bad
11:14 - FAMILIARITY TO MY EX // Emotional Pattern of “being NEEDED”
12:24 - Taking accountability for my lack of follow through
13:24 - Realizing the “friendship” was one-sided
14:36 - Trauma bond dynamic - Giving Tree // Emotional Dependence
15:06 - BETRAYAL - The MASK falling off (*UNO REVERSE*)
16:04 - NARC BEHAVIOR SIGNS: 1.) Need for excessive attention and validation. 2.) Claimed bad memory, changing their stories. 3.) Excessively restless, addicted, and bored. 4.) Anxious of people; projecting negative intentions.
17:36 - Sending the “Flying the Monkeys” and Cycle of DEVALUATION
19:37 - LOVE BOMB - Emotional addiction
20:23 - Using my vulnerability against me.
22:04 - PREMONITIONS: IGNORING my GUT FEELINGS and being manipulated
23:22 - End stage Limerence
24:31 - Restoring FREEDOM from being the “Secret Holder”
25:19 - Limerence was the CATALYST for realizing my UNRESOLVED GRIEF
26:24 - Confronting my REPRESSED ANGER / my inability to set boundaries
28:12 - Relating to Gabor Mate’s Story of LOVE + TRAGEDY
29:58 - Psychodynamic memory of 4-old me “seeking attention by being a victim”
31:37 - Closing thoughts: The Power of Limerence