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In this powerful episode of The Girl Code Podcast, we have an honest and uncomfortable conversation about something many women experience but rarely name: older Black women sometimes being our first bullies.

From being called “fast,” “too much,” or “not enough,” to being publicly criticized or emotionally dismissed, this episode explores how generational trauma, survival mode, and unhealed pain have shaped the way women speak to one another.

This conversation is not about disrespecting elders — it’s about healing, accountability, and breaking cycles so the next generation of Black girls can grow up emotionally safe, confident, and supported.

If you’ve ever struggled with boundaries, people-pleasing, or shrinking yourself to be accepted, this episode will speak directly to you.

✨ Topics include:
• Generational trauma in Black women
• Why harshness is mistaken for wisdom
• Emotional safety vs survival mode
• Setting boundaries with older women
• Healing without disrespect
• Breaking toxic cycles with love

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Key Takeaways:

• Trauma does not equal wisdom
• Respect does not mean tolerating disrespect
• You’re allowed to set boundaries with elders
• Healing means choosing better, not staying silent
• Just because something was passed down doesn’t mean it should be passed forward

Memorable Quotes:

“Pain became personality. Criticism became love.”
“Healing doesn’t mean staying quiet. Healing means choosing better.”
“You don’t have to shrink yourself to make anyone comfortable.”

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