Mistakes to Avoid After Discovering Cheating in Your Marriage

Finding out about an affair often leads to shock, denial, and intense emotions. It’s essential to process these feelings rather than numb or deny them. This video shares guidance on actions to avoid after discovering a partner's affair and how to take steps toward healing, whether you choose to work on the marriage or move on. Infidelity doesn’t have to be the end of your marriage, but it’s a challenging journey.

Covered in the video:

❗Don't Tell Everyone: It can be tempting to share the betrayal widely to gain support or judgment against the partner, but sharing with too many people can make reconciliation difficult. Consider keeping the issue private initially, working it out together or with the help of a therapist.

❗Avoid Social Media Posts: Talking about your partner on social media, especially in a negative light, can have lasting consequences. Even if things get worked out, social media memories don’t disappear, and you may receive continuous reminders that make moving forward harder.

❗Seek Professional Support: A therapist can offer guidance, emotional support, and help you understand whether to pursue individual or couples therapy. Trying to work through this alone can lead to unresolved trust issues if you stay in the relationship.

❗Delay Major Life Changes: Avoid making big decisions—like moving, changing jobs, or significant purchases—right after discovering infidelity. Major life shifts often aren’t beneficial in the immediate aftermath and can sometimes be used as a means of revenge.

❗Don’t Focus on the Other Person: Obsessing over the person your partner cheated with won’t help; focus on your partner’s choice to cheat, as they hold responsibility for the affair. Both partners should avoid self-blame and, instead, seek understanding and, if desired, mutual efforts toward healing.

Read more in my article: https://www.maryjorapini.com/single-p...

Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC is a psychotherapist, specializing in intimacy, parenting, body image, and relationships.

Reaction Reset is a self-help series that explains the psychology behind why we react negatively and how we can begin to make a positive change. Subscribe for a new episode every other Wednesday!

Download PDF activities from my site for more help!
https://www.maryjorapini.com/reaction...

Visit my website:
http://www.maryjorapini.com

Follow me on social media:
Twitter:   / maryjorapini  
Facebook:   / maryjorapini  
Tumblr:   / maryjorapini  
Instagram:   / maryjorapini