How to Support a Depressed Partner in a Meaningful Way (Without EXHAUSTING Yourself!)

Trying to support someone with depression can leave you exhausted. When you’re trying to support your depressed spouse, it can be even worse. Learning how to support a depressed partner without draining yourself is essential for a successful marriage. Helping someone with depression feels even more important when that person is your depressed husband or wife. But you are probably going about supporting your depressed spouse in entirely the wrong way.

In this video I’ll teach you exactly how to support your depressed spouse in a meaningful way. Depression in marriage can put a strain on you both, but when you learn how to support your depressed partner and yourself at th

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I’m Rachael Sloan. I’m a divorce coach for men. I’m also a Master NLP Practitioner, a certified life coach, and the creator of Better Beyond Divorce, a unique approach to divorce recovery based specifically on the needs of men.

I help divorced men move from the shock, betrayal, grief and anger they experience both during and after a divorce, to a place of clarity, calm and confidence. In these videos, I intend to help you do the same.

DISCLAIMER: I am a Master NLP Practitioner and personal growth mentor. The material in this video represents my understanding and experience and nothing more. This content is not meant to replace professional medical advice, treatment or diagnosis. Always consult your medical provider before making any changes to your treatment.

So often when we try to help support someone with depression, we do both of us a disservice by assuming that we know what the person with depression needs. It takes courage to set aside our own agenda and truly be present with a depressed spouse.

When we assume that our partner’s depression is a problem that we must fix, it leads us into a cycle of painful and unproductive emotions. It prevents us from being curious about our partner’s experience.

Learning how to support a depressed partner means learning to listen, deeply, and to become genuinely curious about the depressed person’s map of reality. Helping someone with depression means being present with no assumptions, without taking it personally, and listening to them on a deep level.

And remember, it is not your job to be a therapist to your depressed wife or husband. It is not your job to fix them, or heal them, or change them. In this sense, marriage with mental illness is not so different from any other marriage. Your job is to enjoy loving your partner, depression or no, and to enjoy loving yourself. That’s it.

To your success!

Rachael Sloan