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Testing different timeframes: 2 minutes each (4 total), 5, 6, 10, 20 minutes. The 20-minute group was worst. The 5-minute group thought you meant half an hour. But the 4-minute group was the runaway winner—people felt they could do it. Learn the 8 core emotions based on 5 brain regions (not theory—brain chemistry), and why lonely tells you who matters, guilt helps you grow, and no emotion is negative.

What You'll Learn:
✅ Phyllis said "I got two minutes"—he needed hour and a half to explain
✅ Ran research with different timeframes: 2 minutes each (4 total), 5, 6, 10, 20
✥ 5-minute group was loser—people thought you meant half hour
✥ 20-minute group was worst—"that's going to be heavy, complicated, too much"
✥ 4-minute group was runaway winner—"I can sit down, he has 2 minutes, I have 2 minutes, 2+2=4"
✥ Very clear winner—just going to touch this emotional muscle
✥ Don't want 3-hour workout when first starting gym—too much, won't walk next day, won't go back
✥ Goal: Get people to do this every day, exercise emotional muscle that has atrophied
✥ Based on neural regions of brain associated with emotion—5 regions
✥ From that: 8 core emotions
✥ Based on what's firing in brain—not theory, brain chemistry, brain science
✥ True for every human on planet—just as every human breathes oxygen
✥ Traveling Europe right now, different cultures/languages—all same human condition
✥ The 8: Joy, anger, shame, guilt, fear, lonely, sad, hurt
✥ Most people ask: "Why only one positive and seven negatives?"
✥ NO emotion is negative
✥ Phyllis traveling week without Glenn: He feels lonely
✥ Lonely tells him who matters, who he's connected with
✥ If Chris travels a week, Glenn won't miss at all—because they don't live life together
✥ If Phyllis gone and he says "whatever, I don't care"—means she doesn't matter at all
✥ Lonely is friend reminding who matters, who's valuable
✥ Sad is same category
✥ If rude to Phyllis, feels guilt—good, hope so
✥ If no guilt, just going to be mean tomorrow again, don't learn, don't grow
✥ Don't want to drown in guilt for week, but where guilt hits: "Oh shoot, I messed up"
✥ For 15 seconds experiencing guilt, tell her, process through it, connect more deeply
✥ Powerful to do with someone else, but can also do by yourself
✥ Begins journey of tuning in: "Oh yeah, what's happening with me?"
✥ Curiosity goes deeper and deeper
✥ At first: "I feel shame because I put shirt on backwards"
✥ Then deeper: "Actually, I feel fear of people judging me too"
✥ Find more and more about yourself
✥ For Phyllis: Really powerful to start alone because she had such struggle, so resistant
✥ "I have no fear"—then realized: "Oh, I do. Not afraid of dark, but afraid of failure, afraid of making bad decision as business owner"
✥ A lot of her stuff was deeper—had to get deeper within what was happening

Timestamps:
0:00 - "I Got Two Minutes"—He Needed Hour and a Half
0:32 - Testing Different Timeframes
0:49 - 4-Minute Group Was Runaway Winner
1:13 - Don't Want 3-Hour Workout at Gym First Time
1:55 - Based on 5 Neural Regions: 8 Core Emotions
2:15 - Not Theory—Brain Chemistry, True for Every Human
2:38 - The 8: Joy, Anger, Shame, Guilt, Fear, Lonely, Sad, Hurt
3:00 - No Emotion Is Negative
3:19 - Lonely Tells Who Matters to Me
4:01 - Guilt Helps Me Learn and Grow
4:35 - Process Through Guilt, Connect More Deeply
5:12 - Curiosity Goes Deeper: Shirt Backwards → Fear of Judgment
5:41 - Phyllis: "I Have No Fear"—Then Realized Fear of Failure

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